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BM or in my case BW

kristin neokristin neo member
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My Fl BM is a woman
I have no clue what she should wear? we are having a beach wedding very laid back not formal  and we only have MOH,BW and my 3 kids standing up with us
MOH and my daughter are going to wear summery dresses in red, FL and my 2 boys are wearing white linen button up shirts and linen pants

 my thoughts are
1~ same as MOH but  linen color to match groom
2~ womans linen pants and a womans white linen button up shirt



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  • jenluedtkejenluedtke
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    i think either one would work.. if you can't decide which you like best maybe ask her opinion? i would personally want to wear a dress instead of pants and a button up if i were a BW
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  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    Maybe a white or tan linen sheath dress?   I know a white dress is kind of taboo, but unless you are also wearing a linen sheath dress I don't think anyone will mistake her for the bride.

    Or maybe she could wear some kind of sundress (of any material) that incorporates a pattern of white, tan, and red?   A lot of women don't like wearing linen (it make us look like we're wearing potato sacks).   


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  • dewingedpixiedewingedpixie member
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    My soon to be FI is going to have a woman as one of his groomsmen, we're putting her in a tux! She's fine with this we've already asked :)

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  • calliopeia2013calliopeia2013 member
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    Um, ask her?

    I think your two choices are very reasonable (though as PP said I would probably suggest a patterned sundress or a dress in the color of the groom's slacks, rather than a linen dress).  Just give her the two options and ask which she'd prefer.  Please don't make her wear pants unless it's what SHE would prefer- I would be really uncomfortable if I were required to wear pants to a wedding.
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  • foxybritchesfoxybritches member
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    One of FI's groomsmen is a woman, and two of my attendants are men.

    We're having her wear the same "theme" as the girls - my maids are all picking out their own dresses as long as they are black and tea/knee length. The two male attendants are matching the rest of the guys.

    I stood up in one of my "bridesman"'s wedding, and I wore a suit that I owned because I'm too tiny and curvy to fit properly into a tux.

    I would have rather worn a dress but that's just me. I would ask and see what she's most comfortable with and if that option makes you both happy, go with it! :)
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  • JennluvsPaulJennluvsPaul member
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    edited April 2012
    Lucy HC, here here!

    No one would consider demanding a guy standing up for the bride to wear a dress like the bridesmaids, so why does a woman standing up for the groom automatically have to dress like a guy? It's one thing if the woman wants to wear a tux, or pants, or otherwise match the groomsmen. It's another to make them in order to play it down or "blend in".

    OP, unless the woman in question WANTS to wear linen pants instead of a sundress, let her wear a sundress. And please don't pick a linen sundress, it really DOES make one look like they're wearing a potato sack. Pick a colour that's flattering on her, or see if she already owns one that's suitable. I'd be as bold to say she might as well wear a red sundress too, but if you want her in another colour, I won't complain there.

    Personally, when I hear "laid back beach wedding", I think matching goes right out the window anyway.
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  • kristin neokristin neo member
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    edited April 2012
    i have asked her and shes says whatever we want

    i dont like the idea of her looking like a man!
    my first thoughts are to have her wear the same as MOH but the color of the groom

    i also really like this dress because you cant wear it different ways

    heres a video of the different ways you can wear it
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  • kristin neokristin neo member
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    edited April 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_bm-or-in-my-case-bw?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:0083a41e-46a0-418c-91a4-1da841ea7f12Post:dc2c0cda-a837-40ad-9d10-5eada059175e">Re: BM or in my case BW</a>:
    [QUOTE]Lucy HC, here here! No one would consider demanding a guy standing up for the bride to wear a dress like the bridesmaids, so why does a woman standing up for the groom automatically have to dress like a guy? It's one thing if the woman wants to wear a tux, or pants, or otherwise match the groomsmen. It's another to make them in order to play it down or "blend in". OP, unless the woman in question WANTS to wear linen pants instead of a sundress, let her wear a sundress. And please don't pick a linen sundress, it really DOES make one look like they're wearing a potato sack. Pick a colour that's flattering on her, or see if she already owns one that's suitable. I'd be as bold to say she might as well wear a red sundress too, but if you want her in another colour, I won't complain there. Personally, when I hear "laid back beach wedding", I think matching goes right out the window anyway.
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    </div><div>this is the dress   <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.islandimporter.com/Mele_Dress.html">http://www.islandimporter.com/Mele_Dress.html</a>      i like for the MOH</div><div>
    </div><div>but i also really like the other dress i posted in my last comment</div><div>

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  • irishangiebirishangieb
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    I stood up for my best friend (guy) in his wedding and I wore the dress that matched the other girls but in black to go along with the guys' tuxes.
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  • kristin neokristin neo member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_bm-or-in-my-case-bw?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:0083a41e-46a0-418c-91a4-1da841ea7f12Post:aa0a6d29-225a-403a-badd-1079db290a11">Re: BM or in my case BW</a>:
    [QUOTE]I stood up for my best friend (guy) in his wedding and I wore the dress that matched the other girls but in black to go along with the guys' tuxes.
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    </div><div>thats what im thinking:)</div>
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