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justkris10justkris10
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A friend of mine is recently engaged and she just moved to NC to live with (for the first time) her fiance who just returned from Iraq...they plan to stay there for the next year until his term is up. That being said, this friend of mine is my only and very close friend. They're having an E-party in a couple weeks and I want to get her a LOT of stuff because I know how difficult it is to be able to afford all those little things when you first move (1st place for both of them) So after all that, do you think its presumptious of us to get them a ton of "little" stuff (items under $20)? Or would you just get them one nicer gift?
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  • kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd rather get them one nice gift that they couldn't justify spending the money on.
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  • Rosie24Rosie24
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto Kewltif
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  • caketimecaketime
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    edited December 2011
    Either the big gift like Tif said or a combo of a medium gift and then a gift card to BBB so they can decorate as they want.
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  • kle0113kle0113 member
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    edited December 2011
    I say one big gift, but with that said you know them better then anyone and if you feel that getting them a bunch of little things for the house especially it being their first house. 
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  • uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    I think it is a very thoughtful idea, and I would have liked it when I first moved to my own apartment. What good is a set of fancy wine glasses if you don't have a bottle opener? But... I'd buy it somewhere they have nearby and give them a gift receipt so if they have some of those things already they can return them.
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  • kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    Well I wasn't thinking big gift as in "fancy wine glasses." More like buying them practical new house "big item" that you know they need.
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  • neilly18neilly18
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    edited December 2011
    A friend of mine had a baby this year and by the time I got around to buying her the shower gift all the registry was bare. So I put together a huge basket of all the small things you need for a baby and she was so thankful because money is a little tight for her and she was worried about having to buy all this stuff. She still mentions it to me.  I guess what I am saying is that if you think the small stuff will fit a huge need for them I am betting it will be greatly appreciated.
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  • melissa82melissa82 member
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    edited December 2011
    One of my favorite gifts when I first moved in with FI was this counter storage thingy filled with different sized spatulas, a whisk, big spoon, slotted spoon, tongs, etc. which was packed along with kitchen towels, good oven mitts, etc. I still have it on my counter and still use all the items all the time. So I like the small item thing. =)
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  • kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    If you do buy small stuff- just make sure it's small stuff she actually needs. I have more spatulas than I know what to do with.
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  • alliecarrie41alliecarrie41 member
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    edited December 2011
    is your friend from NC the same NC girl below in those ocean epics?  ;)  i think the thought that you will put into all the little stuff that you know she needs and will use means more than one big gift. 
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  • njbrowneyedgrl74njbrowneyedgrl74 member
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    edited December 2011
    When Mike and I moved in together last year after he returned from the Sand Box, we had to buy everything minus a bed. Getting a ton of little things that are needed and end up adding up to a pretty penny, is a wonderful gift, trust me!
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  • melissa82melissa82 member
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    edited December 2011
    ::gasps:: You can have too many spatulas?? Somehow I find a way to be using one, have one in the sink and one in the dishwasher at the same time. =)
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  • uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Agree with Melissa.  There are definitely some things that are useful to have in multiples.  Other things, not so much (I think a girl *can* have too many pizza wheels, yet somehow I have acquired 3) -- but even if you bought a bigger gift you run the risk that she's already bought/has also received a blender/vacuum/toaster/etc.  That's where a gift receipt comes in handy.
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  • kpeteleykpeteley
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    edited December 2011
    I would be happier with either coming from a good friend.  Why don't you look around and see what little things you find and see if there is one big item she would love more.  What types of little items?  For me, if it was household basic items vs. 1 nice big gift I would prob prefer big gift. If the little items have some sentimentality - then I would prefer those.  I'm not helping :P
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  • justkris10justkris10
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    edited December 2011
    I totally posted and ran but...I definitely agree there are some things you don't want or need 3,4 of...I wasn't going to buy her "little" things like that...the other day we were chatting and I was asking her what she still needed but wasn't in dire (sp?) need of asap...she said -towels -bathroom decor (like the matching soap dish, soap dispenser, etc.) -Plates (every day set - she has 1 set that only serves 4) -Serving ware - big bowels, big plates, dishes -tupper ware -good pasta pot -decorative baskets -frames (all of which these items are on HUGE sale Black Friday) So I was gonna get a big huge basket from Home Goods and fill it with the above items. I saw a wine fridge thingy on sale Black Friday for like $40 @ Target and they're big wine drinkers so in addition to the above that was going to be the "bigger ticket" item I got them. I wasn't planning on buying utensils or anything like that and can't really afford to get her a good vacuum or something along those lines
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  • caketimecaketime
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    edited December 2011
    Oh in that case since you already know what she wants/needs I think it's a great idea.  She will probably be very touched you remembered things she needed.  And the wine holder - fabulous and a sweet thing that is not needed but will be very much appreciated.And a gift receipt will be good just in case someone else gets her that stuff.
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