Help!! 2 pregnant bridesmaids!

shell8180 · November 2009

Hello all I need your help! I am planning on getting married June 18, 2010. I recently found out that 2 of my bridesmaids are pregant. One is due 5 days before my wedding and one is due 2 weeks after the wedding. I am not sure how to handle this situation. I realize that either of them could go into labor at any time that month. I did mention to both of them that if they wanted to step down I would not be angry with them at all. I told them that it might even be a good idea to step down so they are not too stressed during their last month of pregnancy. I told them I wanted them to be as comfortable as possible. I didnt want to upset them but I wanted to be upfront about it. I could see if I only had to worry about one bridesmaid but two!? Any advice on the best way to handle this would be so wonderful.

anna.oskar · November 2009

If you already told them all that, you're good. Might want to have a catcher's glove hidden behind the altar just in case though.

crfische · November 2009

I'm missing the part where you didn't handle it? You told them you didn't care if they step down. It's up to them, really.

ZRex · November 2009

Wow! Honestly, why not just roll with it? Do you have other bridesmaids too? You could just have uneven sides...although, it would suck if one of them went into labor...and come to think of it, the one due 5 days in advance probably wouldn't be able to make it, so would she really want to pay for a dress and everything? Basically, I'm no help. I think you did the right thing by letting them decide whether or not to step down.

beatlesgirl25 · November 2009

How did they respond to your offers of them stepping down? It sounds like you've already handled it well, in that you seem to be worried about their pregnancy stress.

sarah0725 · November 2009

Might want to have a catcher's glove hidden behind the altar just in case though.*snort*You've pretty much done all you need to do. Let them make the decision, and be prepared for the possibility that things might change at the last minute. If they stick with it, great, but be supportive no matter what.Oh, and chairs. If they do want to be in the wedding, don't make them stand through it.

tbh33 · November 2009

If both want to stay part of the party, but you're still worried about the 2 BM's, then have them both walk down but sit in a front pew and walk back out at the end. Or you could have all the GM and BM's sit in front pews. Just a couple of ideas to help keep the certain BM comfortable. If both are still pregnant, even a short ceremony may be uncomfortable to stand that long so late in the pregnancy.Also, if either decide to step down, you may want to consider at least listing them as honorary bridesmaids. I've heard of people doing this with BM or GM who had to be deployed before the wedding was able to take place or in case of a tragic accident. It may be a nice gesture that even though they stepped down, they are still included.

sucrets4 · November 2009

I'd suggest standing on wee-wee pads.

NotNumbers · November 2009

I think what you've done already is fine, leaving the decision with them and having concern for their wellbeing. At least you're not being all "ZOMG, THEY'RE RUINING MY PRETTY PRINCESS DAY!!!!". It's nice to see a bride with pregnant BMs being more worried about their friends than the look of their photos for a change

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britne28 · November 2009

Wow. How did they respond when you said there wasn't any pressure to be in the wedding party?

shell8180 · November 2009

Thank you all so so much for your replies. I was worried that I may have not made the right decision with talking to them about it. One of the BM was ok with it and totally understood (she is the one that is due 5 days before) the other seemed a little upset. I dont think it was at me or anything. I think she was just upset at the situation. She really wants to stand up for me but also knows that she is so close to being due. I do love the idea of honorary bridesmaids and having them right in front with the rest of the BMs. Maybe I could have them do a reading or something. Thanks so much!!!!!!

Pink7781 · November 2009

Please don't do honorary bridesmaids. This isn't something for you to worry about, they will make a decision as it gets closer but worrying about something that is so totally out of your control will just make you crazy.

Pink7781 · November 2009

**Sorry missed the previous post about making them honorary if they step down.**

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