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May 2012 Weddings

That's what I get for assuming... (venue rant)

So I've pretty much been somewhere between a lurker and a respond only type of participant here at the May 2012 boards, but I've decided to vent.  (BTW, I've so enjoyed being part of the board, even in a limited way).

A little background.  My fiance is a big James Bond fanatic and we decided to syle aspects of our wedding around it.  We are trying to do it in a classy way.  So we are looking for a look and feel of a party James Bond would attend than over the top casino/silhouette cutouts/gun holsters type of decor.  Our guests have taken it upon themselves to consider this almost a black tie event.  I stopped short of calling it that because I didn't think I could live up to those expectations.  Now before the ball really got rolling on this theme, we had already chosen our venue.  It's a little nine-hole golf course outside of town with a nice, if plain, banquet hall just the right size for our guests.  The price was great, the scenery was beautiful and it was just a great fit. 

So fast forward to final meetings with the caterer (who is the on site kitchen staff - no choice in this matter).  We talked with her about having a signature drink.  Of course with James Bond being the theme, we wanted martinis.  I asked if they would have enough martini glasses.  She said she could rent some for us, but that she didn't really like using glass because they might be carried out onto the deck and get broken.  Okay, we settled on some heavy duty plastic ones that look decent.  But when I was going over the final arrangements with her yesterday, I asked about the place settings.  Specifically I wanted to know what glasses would be put out.  She said they don't put any glass even on the tables.  Seriously?  Not even a water glass.  So I asked about the champagne toast.  She tells me normally they just put out plastic glasses of champagne on the bar and have people come help themselves. 

Okay - I guess I should have verified all this long ago, but I just never thought I wouldn't even have the option of actual glasses.  Am I frustrated over nothing?  I mean, maybe this isn't a big deal.  I am prepared to accept whatever has to be, but FI says he's going back to the venue to talk it over further.  I think he can tell I'm fed up with it - lol.

Anyway - thanks for letting me get out my first rant on our board!

Re: That's what I get for assuming... (venue rant)

  • That is shocking! I can't believe they don't use any glass! Do you have the option to rent it?
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  • That sucks! How can they have a no-glass-anywhere-policy like that? Does it say anywhere in your contract that you can't have glass? What if you rent or provide them with the glass martinis and centerpieces - will they be ok with that? Good luck!
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  • No, I'm totally with you.  No glassware AT ALL, even for champagne, is really strange.  I actually don't think I've ever seen that anywhere.  Are they going to give you the option to change it out?  Also, I would absolutely have the champagne served to everyone vs. taking it from the bar - you want to make sure every person has a glass during your toasts.
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  • THANK you.  I didn't really think I was being unreasonable.  Most of these conversations have been email or phone so we are going to set up a face to face to see what we can work out.
  • I would be upset too. Could someone in your family/wedding party be able to put out glasses before hand?
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  • I am glad I am not the only one hung up on real glasses.  Our venue uses acrilic glasses for alcohol.  We will have glasses at the table for water and tea along with real china plates and silverware, but then people are going to be walking around with plastic cups?  I was able to talk the owner into letting me rent wine glasses for the cocktail hour and dinner, then we will switch to acrilic...her reasoning is she had a bad experience with glasses and her marble floors in the ballroom.  So she said she would allow it before dinner but not after dinner when people start getting tipsy or what not... I am hoping by that time people will be too tipsy to notice what cup they are drinking out of haha.

    At the end of the day, no one is going to notice or give a crap but me but dammit I want glass lol.
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    If venues are so concerned about their floors, cleaning up glass, etc, then they shouldn't be holding events. That's the nature of events, things happen, stuff gets broken. You clean it up and move on. You don't switch to plastic glasses. That is just assonine to me. If my venue had tried to do that, I would have flat out told them no. And not having glasses on the table is ridiculous. You at least have water and champagne glasses on the table. I'd be pretty pissed if my venue di d this to me, so no, you are absolutely not fustrated over nothing.


  • I agree, it is strange.  I'd be upset, too.  I mean in the wide spectrum of things, it's not a huge deal, but just more the principle of it.  If you can negotiate glass that would be awesome, but I don't think it's worth being too upset over if you can't.  Hope it works out!
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  • I would be upset to. I actually axed a couple of venues I liked otherwise that I first looked at because they charged a glass rental fee and used plastic as their standard serveware. Definitely push them to get what you want - there's no point in settling on this and being unhappy later! Good luck with this, I hope your FI is able to work it out! 
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  • Ugh that is frustrating! I'm sorry!
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