My FI does not want two of my BM's tattoos to show during our wedding. I understand his concern but I picked my BM because I want them by my side and I feel uncomfortable asking them to cover up.
Is there a way to compromise? Can I ask them to cover up for pictures but they can take the make-up off during the reception? I personally don't care but FI doesn't want to see ink on the BM when he looks at our wedding pictures.
What should I do?
Wedding date July 7, 2012
Re: BM and tattos?
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Long answer.....
You picked your bridal party because they are your closest friends and you want them to stand up for you on your special day. Tattoos are typically very sentimental and meaningful to those who have them. To ask someone to cover them up is rude. That's just like your FI saying that he doesn't want someone in your wedding photos because he doesn't like the way they look.
I have tattoos and chose to cover them on my wedding day because my mother asked me to. But I did not dare request my bridesmaids to cover theirs. (I had one bridesmaid actually ask me if I wanted her to.)
BTW....Tattoo cover-up is a b!tch to get off. Its not as simple as going to the bathroom and washing it off.
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Where are the tattoos? Makeup to cover them is an absolute pain but if it's on their back or arms, can they wear a balero during the ceremony and for pictures? That way they can take it off during the reception to be comfortable.
[QUOTE] <strong>I think it is a good comprimise to ask if they mind covering it up for the ceremony and pictures. Worse they can say is no and then you will need to talk to your fi.
</strong>Posted by TNMurray[/QUOTE]
THIS!
[QUOTE]I don't think that asking them to cover up is bad. My FI didnt ask but I was the one running with this one. I have 2 girls with back and arm tattos and I don't see the elegance being there when I look back at my pictures with tats in the pics. No to mention I don't want to have to keep reminding the photographer about posing us diff ways for shots just to cover up. I don't think any less of my 2 special ladies b/c of this at all. I look at it like this, you tell them how you want their hair, shoes and dresses, why not finish up with the make-up request as well. All one big package for accepting to be in someones wedding.
Posted by lmlm[/QUOTE]
THIS! You couldn't have put it any better, and I actually thought the same thing. I asked my sis how she felt about covering up her arm tattoo and she agreed to do it because its my day, and it comes with being a BM.
[QUOTE]I don't think that asking them to cover up is bad. My FI didnt ask but I was the one running with this one. I have 2 girls with back and arm tattos and I don't see the elegance being there when I look back at my pictures with tats in the pics. No to mention I don't want to have to keep reminding the photographer about posing us diff ways for shots just to cover up. I don't think any less of my 2 special ladies b/c of this at all. I look at it like this, you tell them how you want their hair, shoes and dresses, why not finish up with the make-up request as well. All one big package for accepting to be in someones wedding.
Posted by lmlm[/QUOTE]
Totally agree. 3 of my 4 girls have tats. Once we pick the dresses I will be able to see how they look in the dresses. If it doesn't look good to me I will ask them to cover it. If its not distracting or overwhelming then I won't.
I was in my friend wedding and she didn't ask me to cover the tattoo and honestly it wasn't in any of her pics.
I guess it is just a personal preference, if your FI wants them to cover it up then ask them to. Maybe to be nice about it you can purchase the make-up they would need to use to cover it up. You can even let them know that you love them how they are but FI is asking that they cover it up. Hmm? That's a hard one and a matter of preference.