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Gifts to Readers, etc?

stacybrideflstacybridefl member
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Hi Ladies,

Just wondering if you all are giving any gifts to the people doing the readings, taking gifts up, etc?  If you aren't giving gifts, are they invited to the rehearsal dinner? I always thought that everyone involved in the rehearsal should get invited to the RD but it is just not in the budget for everyone to go to dinner since we have 3 readers, 2 gift bearers, 1 cantor, and 2 ushers who are all family members (cousins, aunts, uncles) but not part of the WP.  Since we can't afford to take them out to dinner, I was thinking about getting them a little gift but again can't afford anything too expensive so I would love to hear what everyone else is planning to do.
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Re: Gifts to Readers, etc?

  • ring_popring_pop member
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    edited December 2011
    Everyone who came to the rehearsal was invited for dinner. This included parents, BP, readers, gift bearers, significant others and parents of the FG and RB.

    We went to a super casual pizza & pasta place around the corner. The whole dinner only cost about $300 for ~25 people.

    We also got small gifts for them.
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  • mswood1977mswood1977 member
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    edited December 2011

    Anyone that was involved in the ceremony and need to be at the rehearsal was invited to the rehearsal dinner.  This included our priest, maid of honor, brides maid, best man, grooms man, readers, both sets of parents, and our altar server because he is the son of a family friend.  We also included the significant others of all those involved in the wedding and the parents of our altar server.  We had ours in the private room of a local BBQ place and the cost was $9 a person, this included a buffet, soft drinks and beer and they allowed us to bring in our own wine.  The rehearsal dinner does not have to be a huge expense.  We where lucky and my MIL & FIL paid for our rehearsal dinner (they offered, we did not ask) but I still didn't want them to plan anything extravagant.

    We also presented our wedding party and readers with small thank you gifts.

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto pp's. We invited anyone that was involved with the wedding to the rehearsal and RD. Our readers were a friend from church and my godmother's son's wife. Our gift bearers were my godmother and H's Grandma. We his Grandma a bigger gift bc she also helped with the wedding. We gave one reader and one gift bearer a gift card to Starbuck's. Our other reader we gave him and his wife a gift card to a nice restaurant bc they both have helped us so much over the years we have been together.

    My IL's paid for the RD. We had it at a nice restaurant, but we only served heavy appetizers/hor'dourves bc our rehearsal couldn't be until 6:30pm and that means we didn't get to dinner until about 8pm. We didn't want everyone to eat really heavy and have to get up early the next day as we got married at 1pm.
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  • mica178mica178 member
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    edited December 2011
    We're inviting ours to the RD.  And giving them gifts.  If they are participating in such an important capacity in our wedding ceremony (and attending the rehearsal), we can at least feed them an extra meal, IMO.  I'd rather have a less fancy RD than leave them out of it as I think the readers need to attend the rehearsal.
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