Making Maid of Honor Stand Out - Attire or Otherwise?

flasher718 · February 2012

My Maid of Honor wants to stand out from the rest of the bridesmaids, and rightfully so. She has been my best friend for the past fifteen years. Each of my girls are choosing a different dress in the same color (Lapis) from David's Bridal. I unfortunately vetoed my Maid of Honor's first choice, as I felt as if it was too fancy compared to my somewhat simple dress. Her second choice I love, but it does not lend many ways that I can distinguish her apart from the others. It would not look right with a sash, so that option is out. And the dress already has detailing on one of the straps, so nothing could be added.

Any suggestions to make my Maid of Honor stand out, and feel extra special?

pgcp · February 2012

a bigger bouquet or a hair piece, otherwise just let her know that it will be clear that she is the MOH because she is standing right next to you.

Chels&Jimmy · February 2012

Coincidence - last year I was MOH in my best friend's wedding in St. Louis and all the BM dresses were David's Bridal in Lapis.

Anyway, here's how she did it. She picked about half a dozen dress styles that she liked and allowed us to pick one of those. (Side note: she purchased our dresses for us.) I actually picked the same dress style as another BM but it was totally fine. I just had a slightly bigger bouquet with a different variation of flowers.

RichNicci4211122 · February 2012

Are you having another color for your wedding? Your MOH can wear the complementing color in the dress style that you liked. All of my girls are wearing the same dress, but my MOH is wearing watermelon and the others are in tangerine.

JaxInBlue · February 2012

Ditto PPs. A bigger or different composition bouquet, a hair piece or sash. You could put her in a different color, too. If you are using lapis for your bridesmaids, could your MOH wear wisteria, freesia, or iris?

It's totally fine not to do anything, too. People will know she's the MOH as she will stand next to you and you can list her as such in a program if you have one.

LoveMuffins · February 2012

I went the accent color route for my MOH, if you want to see what that might look like:

And as you can see from my siggy pic the BM wore a vest/tie in the accent color as well.

TiffannieF · February 2012

Bigger bouquet, a different color dress, gloves, silky shaw, "fancy" coat...she's going to be standing next to you holding your bouquet so I really don't know what more she wants but maybe those other options will help satisfy her.

direy25 · February 2012

My MOH wore a different color, but it was actually by accident - when we went to try on dresses, she fell in love with one but we found out it didn't come in the color I had chosen, but it came in a complimentary color. Ended up working out great!

dubird · February 2012

My MOH was going to wear a different color dress and jacket shrug, but the dress she was going to wear wasn't going to work. So, her dress and jacket will be the same color as the others, but I'm thinking of adding silver trim to her jacket, as well as the different bouquet.

Kate61487 · February 2012

She'll be standing next to you and (if you do these things) listed as MOH in the program, introduced as MOH at the reception, AND be giving a speech. I don't get the whole "make me stand out I'm SPECIAL" thing...

SuMmErKuTiE · February 2012

My MOH wore the same dress as the other BM's but wore it in gold with a light pink sash while the other girls wore it in light pink with a gold sash. The best man wore a gold tie and vest to stand out as the best man and to match the MOH while the other GM's matched the BM's.

Honestly, I like it when the MOH and best man stand out from the rest of the wedding party. It's an honor to have those titles, and for those who don't know the wedding party that well, it's much easier to distinguish them once the ceremony and speeches are over and everyone's out on the dance floor.

TiffannieF · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_making-maid-of-honor-stand-out-attire-or-otherwise?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:1bf05d0c-c327-4f1d-a6e6-c855897edfc9Post:4d46fdbf-7931-43dd-880c-3be294e261cc">Re: Making Maid of Honor Stand Out - Attire or Otherwise?</a>:
[QUOTE]She'll be standing next to you and (if you do these things) listed as MOH in the program, introduced as MOH at the reception, AND be giving a speech. I don't get the whole "make me stand out I'm SPECIAL" thing...
Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]

I'm in total agreement. It's not your day to shine, youre there to support the bride not "ya see my different color dress...I'm the MOH". There's only room for 2 AWs at a wedding, the B & G.

That being said I've never been a MOH so maybe I'm being biased. And I can kind of see the difference if you had a large WP with 5+ girls.

At my cousins wedding she had 2 MOHs who were suppose to wear gloves but 1 forgot them so they didn't wear them and I heard one girl upset because she "looked like the rest of them"...

iloveu4ever · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_making-maid-of-honor-stand-out-attire-or-otherwise?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:1bf05d0c-c327-4f1d-a6e6-c855897edfc9Post:7397612a-86eb-4a82-909b-a53fb1163ed6">Re: Making Maid of Honor Stand Out - Attire or Otherwise?</a>:
[QUOTE]a bigger bouquet or a hair piece, otherwise just let her know that it will be clear that she is the MOH because she is standing right next to you.
Posted by pgcp[/QUOTE]

I what is give her a different color boutquetokay from the other bridesmaids.

kateyes107 · February 2012

I'm doing something similar. I have all my girls in Levkoff dresses (plum), but my MOH chose a two toned dress. We ended up with plum dress and antique lilac around the waist. It looks really pretty and it's just enough for her to stand out, but not be too out of place.

TruthWithin · February 2012

My maid of honor is wearing a sash with her dress that is the same color of sash I and the flower girls are wearing (holly, from DB). It makes it a little different, but not in your face so.

Mochiballmouse · February 2012

My MOH will be wearing the same dress as my BM, except that the BM dress is short, and the MOH dress is long. At my Sister-In-Law's wedding, the BM had a similar hairstyle to the Bride, while the other BM had an entirely different 'do. That worked really well, also.

millercr621 · February 2012

I would say a bouquet that's bigger or a different color from the other girls' bouquets.

AndreaKae27 · February 2012

I have 2. Both of my sisters. They all have the same style of dress but my MOH are going to have black dresses and the rest of my BM have red. Their bouquets are just a little bit bigger and just a bit different than the BMs.

bblouin · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_making-maid-of-honor-stand-out-attire-or-otherwise?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:1bf05d0c-c327-4f1d-a6e6-c855897edfc9Post:1802885c-eec3-485e-bef4-d967269a1425">Re: Making Maid of Honor Stand Out - Attire or Otherwise?</a>:
[QUOTE]Are you having another color for your wedding? Your MOH can wear the complementing color in the dress style that you liked. All of my girls are wearing the same dress, but my MOH is wearing watermelon and the others are in tangerine.
Posted by RichNicci4211122[/QUOTE]

This is what we are doing

Tarra+Trav · February 2012

I agree with most posts. I have been a MOH before and never did I have a different color dress or anything. I didn't want to stand out. It was my loved one's day and my job was to make her standout. However, I did allow all of my BMs (there are 4) to pick out their own dress. They are all champagne but different materials and styles. I wanted each of them to wear what they feel beautiful in. They are doing their best to make planning easier for me, throwing me incredible parties and showers and have been there every step of the way to support me and love me. This seemed like one very small little thing I could do for them. I am having my MOH wear an ivory sash. My dress is ivory with champagne beading so she will be the exact opposite of me in champagne with ivory sash, but other BMs have ivory details on their dresses too. So, really they will all get to stand out and be beautiful! Which is really how I feel it should be. They are all important enough to be standing next to me and not one of them is any more important to me than the other. The only thing I am really doing for my MOH is giving her a bigger gift. Not at the wedding though. She has been my BF since middle school. My other BMs are my two sisters and fiance's sister. My BF has never been a MOH before and has gone above and beyond to do a fantastic job. In addition to being my MOH that week she will also have her 25th birthday and graduate from college that I will be missing because of my honeymoon. She will be getting a "Thank you/Happy 25th Birthday/ CONGRATS on graduation college/ Sorry I couldn't be there" gift. She's earned it! I guess I just think that all the attendants should standout and they should all know that the reason they are there is to make the Bride standout. It's the Bride's day, and if you have a great MOH like me. She will probably appreciate a subtle way to make her feel special, but mostly the thank you and words of appreciation will be best to her

EandK2012 · February 2012

my MOH is having a bigger bouquet and she is wearing different colored shoes. my BM dresses are knee-length and they're all wearing black shoes but my MOH is wearing red

nice way to stand out without drawing too much attention away from the bride & groom.

Lily213 · February 2012

I think a different color dress is a fantastic idea. I will be doing this for my MOH.

AngelRiddle · February 2012

Since I really don't want an excessively high flower budget, my bridesmaids are just carrying a single large rose (turned out and wrapped in the accent-colored ribbon). Since my MOH is wearing what my bridesmaids are wearing, she will carry something like a clutch boquet version of my bouquet to distinguish her from the rest.

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