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When is the Bridal Shower supposed to take place?

Ashleigh828Ashleigh828
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My fiance and I are moving into a new home in a few weeks and were considering having a housewarming party. While we do not expect guests to give gifts at this, we also thought that instead, it might be better to have the Wedding Shower (couples). We were thinking of a casual party at our new home with family and friends. Since we have just gotten engaged (literally 2 days ago) and would want this "housewarming party" to be in September, I'm wondering if that would be too soon to consider it a Wedding Shower. We haven't pick a date and most likely would have one by the party but I don't want to seem rude. Any suggestions???
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Re: When is the Bridal Shower supposed to take place?

  • Galaxy8227Galaxy8227
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    edited December 2011

    Wedding showers are thrown for you, not by you.  If you want to have a housewarming party for your new home that's fine, but I wouldn't call it a shower. 
    Showers are typically are anywhere from a few months until a few weeks before the wedding--you do want to have a date and a guest list before you have a shower cause you only invite people to the shower who you are going to invite to the wedding. 

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  • JBs_BrideJBs_Bride
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_massachusetts-boston_bridal-shower-supposed-place?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:89Discussion:5cd7b927-1979-4ca7-b75d-3c20fb7a7e3ePost:9aa63982-24f8-41dd-bf91-076ba42cdffc">Re: When is the Bridal Shower supposed to take place?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wedding showers are thrown for you, not by you.  If you want to have a housewarming party for your new home that's fine, but I wouldn't call it a shower.  Showers are typically are anywhere from a few months until a few weeks before the wedding--you do want to have a date and a guest list before you have a shower cause you only invite people to the shower who you are going to invite to the wedding. 
    Posted by Galaxy8227[/QUOTE]

    Agree 100%.
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  • booboo1978booboo1978
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    edited December 2011
    Agree 100% with Galaxy.  You should not throw any wedding related parties for yourself.  If someone close to you wants to throw a party for you, they will. 
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  • cdbishopcdbishop member
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    edited December 2011
    I was going to say the same thing.  You do not throw your own wedding shower, and do not have it not knowing when the date of your wedding and who is invited.  Just have a housewarming party.  Perhaps you can say gifts aren't necessary because people will be buying you wedding gifts soon.  Not sure on how to word that best, but it's something you could say. 
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  • Hellokatie0517Hellokatie0517 member
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    edited December 2011
    Agree with PPs, but I'm not 100% sure that gifts are expected for housewarming parties.  So, don't even mention the "no gift" clause.  If someone wants to give a gift, let them give a gift.  Those who don't or can't give a gift simply won't give a gift.  Or just throw a BBQ with no mention of a "housewarming".

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  • jkeprosjkepros member
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    edited December 2011
    Agreed.  No shower.  I'd suggest wording an Evite something like:

    We've Moved!
    Come check out our new digs at
    123 Main Street
    Anytown, USA
    Saturday, May 15, 2011
    at 7pm

    At the bottom say something like "Dinner will be served" (or potluck or drinks/apps or BBQ or BYOB or however you do parties...)

    Have fun!  In my experience at these things the "gifts" that people bring are usually small: a houseplant, bottle of wine, some sort of dessert or food dish, or maybe something small & kitchen/party related (like a cheese board or fruit basket or things like that)--they aren't really like engagement, shower or wedding type gifts.  
    If you have announced your engagement already to everyone you *might* get a "congratulations on your engagement" card or bottle of wine/champagne or something, but I wouldn't expect anything more than that.

    Oh, and like previous posters said, showers are usually closer to the wedding date--I'd say they are typically within ~3 months of the wedding, up until a couple weeks beforehand, and are usually thrown by the bridal party or friends/family involved in the wedding.
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