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xp: Regretting First Look?

hollandgirl1981hollandgirl1981 member
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Has anyone who has done a first look regretted it?

 I would like to do a first look (I never had a strong urge to be traditional, and our ceremony and reception are at the same place, with only the cocktail hour inbetween), and my Fiance doesn't care either way.  But now his mother is creating a big stink about it, and has even gone as far as threaten that it will severely threaten the mother-son relationship if we see each other before the ceremony.  It's been a huge ordeal, and the short of the story is that he will back me up on what I want to do, but that he is torn because he wants to make us both happy.
I am so stressed about the issue because I know that the first look would make the wedding day (a little) less hectic, we could get a few more pictures in and we wouldn't have to spend the majority of one of the most important days of our lives apart (4pm ceremony).  But the fact that it is going to affect thier relationship is something I don't want on my shoulders (she is doing a good enough job at ruining thier relationship all on her own and doesn't need my help)

Sorry it's so long, I needed a little vent and possibly some insight I haven't gotten yet, Thanks!!
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Re: xp: Regretting First Look?

  • leah2489leah2489 member
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    edited December 2011
    Maybe you should just do all of the other formal shots before the ceremony (you and BM, him and GM, etc)  and just save the ones with both of you for after. That way you will spend less time away from your cocktail hour, and it should help some with making things less hectic at that time.

    Or just don't tell her you saw each other first lol.
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  • katemstudiophotokatemstudiophoto
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    edited December 2011
    There are many benefits to a first look, but many mothers and future mother-in-laws have strong feelings about this practice (my own mother included).  If you aren't that set on doing the first look, I would let your future MIL have what is really important to her and skip it.  Like leah2489 suggested, you can easily get all of the formal images of you and your parents, bridesmaids, the groom & groomsmen and whatnot done before the ceremony without seeing each other.  It will save time and you can still have plenty of time after the ceremony to get additional photos.  It's a tough one, but really it just comes down to if it's really that important to you and your relationship with the MIL.  There are going to be many opinons on pretty much all of your decisions, so fight the battles that are most important to you.  Correct me if I am wrong, but it sounds like this is one is really not one of them.  I hope this helps :)
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