Junior Bridesmaids!

Re: Junior Bridesmaids!

• artbyallie mod

  

  November 2012

  Well, she shouldn't call them 'junior' since that's a bit insulting. But it's odd that she would want them to sit when the other bridesmaids are standing. That would say to me that she really doesn't want them in the wedding party at all. Clearly, it's too late to not ask them, so the only thing she can do is to treat them equally to the rest of her bridesmaids.

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  November 2012

  Why does she want them to sit down instead of standing?

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• Avion22 member

  

  November 2012

  I've seen it where ALL attendants sit during the ceremony, or where just the flower girl and ring bearer sit. 

  
  

  It seems strange that she wants the "senior" bridesmaids to stand, the flower girl to stand, and the junior bridesmaids to sit.   

  

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• AdeleDazeem member

  

  November 2012

  They are wearing the dress, walking down the aisle, witnessing the ceremony and smiling for pictures - these "junior" bridesmaids are doing everything a "senior" bridesmaids is doing so I don't see why should treat them like second class citizens.  Sorry she doesn't want so many people standing but she should of thought of that before asking eleven people.  The girls stand just like everyone else.

  
  

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• Tami87 member

  

  November 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_junior-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:16edd654-6f36-4bec-9a5b-981155ae21b9Post:93a3387b-e78c-423e-94a6-afa6c252954b">Re: Junior Bridesmaids!</a>:
  [QUOTE]I have been to many weddings where the MOH and best man, who are the official witnesses stood with the bride and groom for the ceremony. The other attendants sat in the front row. The immediate family members sat behind the wedding party. It allowed a better view of the B & G, without distractions. And the wedding party was comfortable during the ceremony. There is nothing tacky about that. How old are the junior bms? Are they so young that they can't stand still for the duration of the ceremony? Or is your friend concerned about the amount of space? I would either have All the bms stand or have them All seated, but treat them equally.
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  I agree with all of this. It is quite common to see this, especially for longer ceremonies. Also if the wedding party is seated I have seen them asked to stand just during the vows and exchange of rings as witnesses. I think this is a much better solution than only having the junior bridesmaids sit.

  

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• gwencsmith

  

  November 2012

  Thanks for al the responses! I agree that they need to be treated equally.  I will mention the stand up sit down option for everyone!  The Church she is getting married in is large and they have more of a "stage" platform compared to stairs.  I appreciate the feedback as I'm meeting her on Sunday.

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• random4180 member

  

  November 2012

  We had everyone sit, lol- not being very wedding savvy, I never even knew that was different from the norm. My husband and I sat in front of the altar with his Best Man to the right and my Maid and Matron of Honor to the left. The rest of the bridal party (BMs and Jr BMs, GM, FGs, and RB) and family sat in the front rows. Our wedding wasn't terribly long (about half an hour total) but maybe if you're having a shorter ceremony it might look odd?

  

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• MoxieMickie member

  

  November 2012

  In Response to Re:Junior Bridesmaids!:[QUOTE]I'm 48, and never heard of "junior" bridesmaids until The Knot. All the females were either bridesmaids, Maid/Matron of Honor or Flower Girl, and they all stood up for the ceremony.nbsp; Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
  That's Really interesting to me and I wonder if maybe there are regional variations. For my mom's friends and family For their weddings in the late sixty's/early seventy's, Teen girls were labeled junior bridesmaid and were not paired up with a man. It would have been on thinkable not to have even numbers and sex specific Sides. No 1 read wedding books; This was just their norm. The teens Didn't think to be upset about it, luckily, since it was meant to be an honor rather than a slight.
  
  
  Sorry for the crazy capitalization;

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