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Ketubah question

dramaqueen91087dramaqueen91087
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Can I have a Ketubah even though my FI is not Jewish and we will not be married by a Rabbi? Our officiant will either be a judge (my uncle who was not born Jewish but we think he converted, long story), or a friend of my FI (not Jewish). If I can where can I find one?

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    imimahoneyimimahoney
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    Probably.

    I would look for some interfaith texts that are egalitarian. 
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    ElisabethJoanneElisabethJoanne member
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    It depends on what you mean by a ketubah. If you mean a kind of religious pre-nup, that a bet din, a religious court, will enforce, probably not. If you mean a pretty piece of paper signed before your primary ceremony with traditional-sounding texts, of course.

    Lots of websites sell the pretty pieces of paper. Here's 2:
    http://thisisnotaketubah.com/
    http://www.ketubahsandmore.com//shop-a-ketubah/ketubahs.html

    Scroll through the board, and you'll find more sites. To be extra-respectful to the artists, you might want to explain your circumstances. Some might be offended to create what they think will be used very reverently but will actually be used in other circumstances. I imagine your requested texts will let them know, and I think it's also OK to consider it an arms-length, plain ol' online retail transaction. Turning the tables, the atheists who run grocery stores don't care that we put the matzah or wine or flour (into challah) to religious use.
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    cigallcigall member
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    Ketubahs have crossed over into a beautiful tradition for many cultures! You can find some unique ketubah artists and designs at http://www.mazelmoments.com/vendors/browse/judaica

    Enjoy and congrats!!
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    ItsMorganItsMorgan
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    Hey Drama Queen! I'm Morgan, from This Is Not a Ketubah -- I see someone above recommended us! Yay!!!! We have lots of Ketubot in many styles, all very traditional yet modern -- and if you have any questions at all, just ask, we're here to help you through the Ketubah process :)


    We'd love to talk!

    morgan
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    ItsMorganItsMorgan
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    Hey Drama Queen!

    I'm Morgan, from This Is Not a Ketubah. I'm happy someone above recommended us -- yay! :)

    To answer your question: orthodox rabbis usually use the traditional text for traditional Jewish couples; reform rabbis use any text for any couple; and conservative rabbis are a mixed bag. Well, sounds like all of Judaism summarized in a sentence :) Hehe.

    morgan
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