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September 2012 Weddings

What are you providing for your BMs??

I'm currently thinking about what I want to spend on gifts for BMs as well as for extra things like paying for their hair, manicures, etc. Has anyone decided this yet? How much are you spending on gifts and what are you getting? Are you also paying for other "services" for them at the wedding? 

Re: What are you providing for your BMs??

  • i'm still up in the air about this.

    i'm thinking i will get them monogrammed travel jewelry rolls for their gift. i don't have one and i dont think any of them do either and they are all big on monograms too. i found some from pottery barn that will be $41 a piece with the monogram.

    i think i will for sure pay for manicures/pedicures the day before too, if they can make it. when i was a BM in my MOH's wedding we had a bridal luncheon and then she made appointments for us to all get manis/pedis but then we all had to pay and it seemed a little odd i guess.

    i would like to pay for their hair/makeup but i'm not sure everyone wants to get theirs professionally done. i don't want it to be unfair if i pay for some while others do their own, but i also don't want to force everyone to have to get it done or have them not like it, etc. so i'm torn in that area.
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  • I've been picking up random things here and there.  I was shopping in the mall a couple months back and found some totes at Icing for $.50, so I picked up a few of them.  Ordered some stuff from B&BW the other day and got lotions that were on sale and had a pic of a diamond on them.  As the time gets closer, I plan to find something I feel represents each of them and will put that in the tote bag.  I'm thinking of offering their hair, but I'm not sure yet.
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  • I'm lucky because I only have my sister standing - she's my MOH.
    I am still searching for a xmas ornament that would symbolize her involvement in the wedding and express my gratitude; we both collect ornaments so I know she's love it.
    I think we'll pay for our own mani/pedi, but I'll get the bill for the hair/makeup the day of the wedding.
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  • I'm not sure yet.  I will probably just get a bunch of little things for them as though I was shopping for them for Christmas/birthday.  I'm thinking of putting it all in a non-monogram tote bag.  I will probably put only 1 thing in their tote that is wedding related.  
    I wish I could pay for services for the wedding but my budget is already pretty tight.  I really could care less if they have their nails done along with hair/makeup.  All I care about is that they show up in the required dress and have a blast.  If they do choose to get pampered with me before the big day then I will book them an appointment to go along side me.  If not, then no worries :)
  • I'm not sure what I'm getting my girls yet as their present -- but like lbarr said my plan is to just shop for them as if it's their birthday.

    As far as hair, I'm telling them "my girl costs X dollars; if you want to get your hair donw the morning of the wedding let me know and she'll set aside time for you." If they don't want it professionally done, I couldn't care less.
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  • Right now we're budgeting $100 per person.  I was trying to find a piece of jewelry to give each of them that will be the same.  We have all been friends since pre-school, like a modern day friendship gift.  lol. I'd like to pay for their makeup to be done too.  So that would bring the total a little over $100 probably.

  • I haven't decided on gifts but I know I am paying for their hair, and possibly maini/pedis.
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  • I've already purchased monogramed make-up bags.  I'm going to put little things for the day in them as well as a nip of each's favorite alcohol/drink.  I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to afford to pay for their hair, but they all seem really open to paying for it themselves.  They all want to do their own make-up which I'm totally fine with.  I don't know about mani/pedis, I may offer it as we get closer to the wedding.  I'm having my cousin custom design a necklace for each of them that will go with their personal style as well as their dress.  They're also going to get chocolate brown pashminas to go with their dress incase it's cold on the day of the wedding.  I might pick up some other little things here and there if they remind me of the girl, just to personalize the gift a little more.
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    ive been picking up stuff all alone
    monogrammed manicure set
    monogrammed cosmetic bag
    monogrammed glasses
    pashimas and I brought their jewelry.
  • I haven't decided on gifts yet.

    I did already tell them that I wil pay for their make-up if they want it because my MUA required a minimum of 5 girls to travel to my hotel, but if they don't want to have it done, no big deal- the mothers or SIL's will take the spots.  For hair, my stylist does not have a minimum to travel, so I told them it will be $50 if they choose to have it done, but it is totally up to them.  Debating on the mani/pedi.  Probably not though. 
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  • For gifts I am getting them different bracelets and clutches.  They don't go with the wedding, but are more for their day-to-day use based on their personalities.  I decided to pay for their hair & makeup, but am not making it their gift.  It was just something I wanted us to do together.
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  • I got each of my girls a hanger with their name in the metal part. I also am getting each of them a braclet and earrings that they can wear the day of the wedding and they will be generic so they can wear them at other times also. I am going to be getting them flip flops that are designed with the wedding colors which they can wear if the want to take off their shoes at the wedding and also any time after. My mom said she is going to purchase the totes for everyone so I will most likely be putting there stuff in the totes. Not sure what else. Depending on what everything adds up to I might pay for everyones make up. 
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  • I got each girl a hand painted wine glass with the name, the bridesmaid dress, and "bridesmaid' or "Maid of honor" on it.

    Everything else is on them.  Only one girl wants professional hair and no one wanted professional make up.  I'm going to ask them to get a color change ($10) for their nails to a french manicure.
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  • I only have one BM and after speaking with her I am going to pay for her to get her hair and make-up done. (She never pampers herself and is really excited for it.)

    I'm going to give her some framed photos after our wedding and I also might get her a little ipod (she lost hers) or something to do with her favorite hobbies (photography & art). I can't make up my mind!
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  • I'm buying my girls TOMS for the wedding, paying their hotel rooms for Friday night after the rehersal, and covering their hair. 

    With 7 girls this is sure to add up fast :/
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  • I was going to cover their hotel room, but now the hotel is getting a big a$$ reno so the rooms are going from 100 a night to 170....so that's not going to work.  The wedding is at a spa and resort, so I thought about getting them massages the morning of the wedding and other stuff.
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  • I only have two girls so I don't mind paying for a few things. I haven't decided what yet completely. but Im thinking of paying for mani/pedis. and probably hair since most likely Im having an old friend do it (now owns her own salon. she is also one of the girls' daughters godmother. so I know shell cut us a really good deal) I am also thinking of getting them their shoes or something else for the wedding, along with a few little non-wedding related items.
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    Paying for hair/nails/makeup/wedding jewlery/wedding toasting flutes/wedding shoes is not a thank you gift. Its something you feel compelled to give them. It's your wedding but your gift doesn't need to reflect that. /endrant.

    mani/pedi day before wedding: $50+tip
    pandora & birthstone charm: $160
    coach wristlet: $100
    anything over $150 on their bridesmaid dresses up to $100

    I would pay for their makeup/hair day of wedding but I told them those weren't mandatory and one of them is hairdresser who could have more than competently done her hair and the other BM's. They are free to wear shoes of their own choosing and any jewlery they wish to.

    I might also get a gift for whomever hosts the shower (I think one of them is going to have it at their house) and my stagette is out of town at a rented cabin so no "host" there.
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