Trying to make things simple...

AEPerpete · September 2012

i am learning that sometimes even when you try to make things simple, they become complicated.

FI and I decided that the groomsmen would wear black suits to the wedding. Not pin striped or two toned, just black. If they had one already, awesome. If not, there are some places with some great deals on right now. We figured we were being very laid back, and low maintenence. If someone doesn't have a black suit, it couldnt hurt to invest in one. Clearly they will wear it again.

FI told the GMs this, and later when visiting one of them, is told by the GM's Mom that we should have them all the same brand, and the shades of black will probably be different (which we really don't care about) and seemed upset that they wouldn't be wearing tux's. FI explained it wasn't so formal, and most of the guys would have a plain black suit already.

The next day that GM called FI to tell him his Mom bought him a suit for it (even though he already had a black one) and that it is pinstriped :S

Later in the week, we both see the GM and his Mom, and she brings up the fact that she hopes the suit she bought her son is to my taste (putting me on the spot to say it wasn't what we asked for....and why was she buying her son a suit without him there?) but I did not say these things. FI said we were hoping the suits would just be plain black, and she looked upset. Super. She was all "Well, I'm not taking it back. [son] will just have to decide between the suit I got him and what he has".

So random and awkward. Especially because I like this woman. So we go out of our way to try to make things simple and cheap....and it backfires.

mbuckley85 · September 2012

That really stinks.

Have the GM wear his plain black suit. His mother will get over whatever her issue is.

For what its worth, I feel like there is a lot more that can go wrong with suits over tuxes. I could not handle that stress! FI was in a wedding where he was supposed to get a specific navy blue suit and it didn't come in his size! What a disaster!

MichKev2012 · September 2012

That is so annoying! Don't let this woman get to you! But I can see how irritating it is to try and do something simple and have it turned into this whole big mess. You or your FI can just remind the GM that you had asked for GMs to wear a solid black suit for the wedding. He will probably understand. Plus he can wear the pin striped suit on other occasions, so it isn't a waste.

It's always the little things that blow up isn't it.

ericaandtom2012 · September 2012

Wow, that mom sounds like she will be a fun MOG someday. I'm sorry she's being annoying; hopefully the GM will just wear a plain black suit as you requested. I would just deal directly with the GM, not the mother. Hopefully you can gently remind him that you're looking for a plain black suit.

thale0924 · September 2012

I am doing the same thing! Except the problem with me is the tie. I don't know how many times (I've texted on FI's phone pretending to be FI) and said. Nice plain black suit, white shirt, black tie. We still get multiple questions. I just wanted simple,easy, and cost effective.

On that note for my BMs I let them all wear their own dress in a general color scheme. That way they can pick the best one for their body shape/price point. Some of my bms bought two or three! haha So much for saving them money, I think one spent way more on her three than if I would have picked out one :-/

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