My fiance's family is originally from India and they are Hindu. When we got engaged they apparently assumed we would be having a large Indian/Hindu wedding where they live (which is 300 miles away). We told them that we wanted to get married where we live and that we wanted to have a smaller wedding. We also told them that we weren't going to have a Hindu ceremony with a Hindu priest, but that we would incorporate some Hindu elements into a ceremony. They threw a fit.
Before we told them all this, they had said that they wanted to help pay for the wedding, so later on, my FI asked what exactly they wanted to contribute. They said that they would only pay for the members of their family who ended up traveling the distance to our wedding and that if they paid for anything else, they would have to see receipts for approval. We told them to keep their money.
In September, when we were trying to figure out how large the wedding should be, we each made a tentative guest list. It came out to be about 75 each (150 total), which was my max, since I really wanted a very small 50-60 persona wedding. FI sent the list to his mother, who said that it looked complete to her.
On Sunday, his mother called and wanted to add like 30-40 people to the list. He said no, that we had budgeted to invite 150 people and since they weren't paying, they didn't get a say so. She made a huge deal about it and I couldn't understand where it came from.
The next morning FI sister, who just got engaged at Christmas and wants to get married in October, called me to tell me that she had made her guest list with her parents and it was way over 200 people. She said she had to invite those people to be nice to her parents She also was sure to tell me that she had already hired their family priest since not doing so would be "disrespectful".
I'm sure his parents decided we had to invite more people because FI's sister is, but I'm just ridiculously annoyed. Should I just get over it? Sorry about the long post!
May 2013 February Siggy: Invitations
