Hate seating charts....

nani1012 · September 2012

Is anyone elsse having a rough time with their seating charts? Anyone else completing one? I knew it was going to be a pain, but this is torure. Too many rifts on both sides and I'm SICK of this.... :-( J can't be near A and M, S doesn't get along with G.....so annoying. Thanks for letting me vent, I needed that!

huskerfan246 · September 2012

I'm not using one, we will have extra seating available so people can choose where they want to sit. There will be about 3-4 tables towards the front that will be reserved for family but otherwise the rest is open. Most weddings i've been to have been that way and they never had any issues with it. I understand its an etiquette thing but so far i've been way off the etiquette charts on a few things, its the way we want it though.

samanthaeisner · September 2012

I am starting that this week. At a baby shower this weekend, a friend of my mom's told me, "make sure I don't sit with X." As a side note, X is the nicest person I have ever met in my entire life, so I was thrown off. I asked why and she said my mom knows. When we got home, I asked my mom had no idea why.

Why can't people come together, despite feelings, and have a happy day together?

schnugglebug · September 2012

I did a rough copy of mine... but 75% of the family coming is FI's and this person won't sit with that person etc etc etc

so he brought it to work today to fiddle around with... I thought that was so sweet...

Good luck with yours. how many are you seating?
we have 100 so not to bad, could be worse! LOL

ericaandtom2012 · September 2012

We haven't started ours yet. I think the most difficult thing will be the parent tables. FI's parents want to do a table for both sets of parents, but if we do that, my grandparents won't all get to sit with my parents (FI only has one living grandparent, I have 5). I'm probably going to put my foot down and say each set of parents will host their own table.

I will also probably wait until we have more (or any) rsvps back before starting it. No sense in seating people that might not come!

mbuckley85 · September 2012

We have a little bit of that going on. Our flower girl's mother, grandmother and great-grandmother cannot be seated together. No combination of 2 of them can be made either. Its a little frustrating that people cannot just be adults and sit down and make the most of it.

Also, my sister and her boyfriend cannot sit with my aunt because my aunt is continually asking my sister's boyfriend how old he is an being rude to him.

I have another aunt that none of her siblings want to sit with because she is annoying (oh well).

Plus, my dad's family smokes and I don't want to sit all his siblings together because I don't want entire tables to be empty when they decide its an appropriate time to all go outside to smoke together (Really? Can't they go one at a time?)

This is why I'm happy that FI and I will have a sweetheart table. I want to be away from any drama.

Ividian · September 2012

I've been doing a 'rough draft' as rsvp's come in, but I know I'll have to do a final when I have all the RSVP's so I know how many tables I have to work with. I only have 1 'drama family' that includes 3 people that I will need to seat strategically, but other than that I don't have a lot of restrictions, I'm just trying to seat everybody with people they know.

photochick2013 · September 2012

How are you letting people know they are to set at the "Reserved" table? My FI's family has cause a bit of drama and I'd like to avoid...

huskerfan246 · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_hate-seating-charts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:8e7d1f48-be89-4104-844b-f1434b1b343fPost:87463496-f1ef-48f8-aa9d-ddc3bc2d34dc">Re: Hate seating charts....</a>:
[QUOTE]How are you letting people know they are to set at the "Reserved" table? My FI's family has cause a bit of drama and I'd like to avoid...
Posted by photochick2013[/QUOTE]

For our reserved tables, my mom and my FI's mom are informing family that those tables are available to them, as well as informing our Pastor and his wife since he is leading a mealtime prayer, something my FI requested.

schnugglebug · September 2012

YAY seating chart done... FI finished it at work... he had spare time... lol
phewph relief!

nani1012 · September 2012

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[QUOTE]I did a rough copy of mine... but 75% of the family coming is FI's and this person won't sit with that person etc etc etc so he brought it to work today to fiddle around with... I thought that was so sweet... Good luck with yours. how many are you seating? <strong>we have 100</strong> so not to bad, could be worse! LOL
Posted by schnugglebug[/QUOTE]

I have roughly the same (about 100 pl), but there are huge family issues with FIs side and I'm just annoyed.

nani1012 · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_hate-seating-charts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:8e7d1f48-be89-4104-844b-f1434b1b343fPost:3aa00e20-db46-406a-a558-8f3908738a8d">Re: Hate seating charts....</a>:
[QUOTE]We have a little bit of that going on. Our flower girl's mother, grandmother and great-grandmother cannot be seated together. No combination of 2 of them can be made either. Its a little frustrating that people cannot just be adults and sit down and make the most of it. Also, my sister and her boyfriend cannot sit with my aunt because my aunt is continually asking my sister's boyfriend how old he is an being rude to him. I have another aunt that none of her siblings want to sit with because she is annoying (oh well). Plus, my dad's family smokes and I don't want to sit all his siblings together because I don't want entire tables to be empty when they decide its an appropriate time to all go outside to smoke together (Really? Can't they go one at a time?) This is why I'm happy that FI and I will have a sweetheart table. I want to be away from any drama.
Posted by mbuckley85[/QUOTE]

I can sorta relate. FFIL has caused a rift in the family...therefore most of FMIL family really dislike him (FIs parents are divorced and it was ugly). I'm not worried about the FILs as much since they have been together for other family things and just steer clear from each other. And I'm at a loss of who to sit with FFIL since most of his family said they're not coming. FYI each group of parents are hosting their own table to reduce the drama between them.

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