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Police at wedding?

dr_mrs.kingdr_mrs.king member
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in New York-Hudson Valley
So without getting too into it, I'm considering hiring security or a cop to be present at my wedding.  My father passed away recently, under suspicious circumstances and his widow (who is a police officer, and her gun was used in his death) is very odd to say the least.  She isn't handling it well and she isn't invited to the wedding.  I'm nervous that she may show up and since she is a cop have her gun with her.  My grandmother still speaks to her very often and is giving her details about the wedding (even though I've asked her not to) and I'm afraid she is going to know where and when the wedding is taking place and make an appearance.  Is it appropriate for me to have security or a cop present, even in street clothes?  And how would I go about this?

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  • clarereedyclarereedy
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    edited December 2011
    I would think it would have to be private security.  Unless maybe there is some investigation going on and the police would want to be present?  Perhaps your venue has a company that they have used before and could point you in the right direction?  However, you still have a year before your wedding - everything could be straightened out by them.  I would ask about security, but don't know if I would book anything just yet. 
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  • RamblinRosieRamblinRosie
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    edited December 2011
    With over a year until your wedding, I agree with PP...Why don't you wait a while and if you still have these concerns a couple of months before your wedding, then go about hiring security.

    Sorry about your loss and the continuing difficulty.
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  • SandDDSandDD member
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    edited December 2011
    You may be able to contact the local police department once the event gets closer. They may be able to go through them (I know we have people in our town hire police for security for bar mitzvahs!)

    If anything you should at least alert them of the situation especially if you are hiring private security.

    Sorry for your loss as well. You should not be having to worry about this!
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  • manda26manda26
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    edited December 2011
    I'm really sorry about your Father :(

    I would contact the local PD and see what they say when you get closer to the wedding perhaps, I can see why you would want security there
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  • TerriandJoeTerriandJoe
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    edited December 2011
    I'm very sorry about your father.

    As everyone says, wait until it gets closer to the wedding.

    Hope it will be an easier time for you.
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  • lauraNkieranlauraNkieran member
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    edited December 2011
    Unfortunately there was a possibility we were going to need security as well but thankfully after sitting tight we found it just wasn't necessary.  I spoke to a few of my NYPD friends and all said the same thing ... IF they were there more as security vs. a guest and something DID happen, they could get in trouble.  They did suggest calling our local pct. to make them aware of the sitution and that we would need to hire private security guards.  Thankfully in the end we were comfortable with the two cop guests and 1 in the wedding party.  Since they were invited or in the WP, if something did happen their jobs wouldn't be on the line.
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