what do I do????????

odustudent22 · June 2012

so not only did i run out of invitations
AND
people are writing their own guests when a +1 was not offered
AND
people near by arent revciving their invitations
NOW
It turns out I mis spelt the first AND last name wrong on, get this, my Fh's EX SISTER IN LAWs invite. Like, really. I didn't even want to invite her, I have like 10 guests from my FH's ex wifes family already and I really dont like this woman. But yet I still feel awful about the misspelling....I wrote it how it was givin to me.

do I have to send the highly offended woman an apology card? have I mentioned I really hate this lady? I honestly wish she would be so offended that she wouldnt come, but that's not the case. Grrr.
help me please, what should I do?

odustudent22 · June 2012

oh, and when my FI saw me crying about the situation he said he would have done it just show her how little importance she has in our life (along with her "dead beat mom" sister, She only wants to come to the wedding to stick her nose up at it anyway.

TheShadyYvonne · June 2012

I'd say be hte bigger person and apologize and if she doesn't accept it - at least you were the bigger person. a quick call or something would be more personal?

that's what I'd do i suppose

dawnp917 · June 2012

It sounds like neither you nor your FI like your ex-SIL why would you invite her?

[Deleted User] · June 2012

It wasn't your fault if thats how it was given to you.
I'd give a quck apology next time you see her and forget about it.

odustudent22 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2012-weddings_what-do-i-do?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1fb748ee-7a4e-40eb-b4b4-e553486f4cacDiscussion:e7f61e8e-9907-4abe-8f36-0a152c3eb7f9Post:071787fa-973b-4821-8838-9f69c4f2c04b">Re: what do I do????????</a>:
[QUOTE]It sounds like neither you nor your FI like your ex-SIL why would you invite her?
Posted by dawnp917[/QUOTE]

she basicly invited herself..and her mother pressed the issue.

cshuler · June 2012

Okay. My FI has been married before and I would not dream of inviting anyone and I mean anyone from his ex's side of the family. She should feel bless to get an invite. If she is upset, she will get over it. If not, oh well.

DeClue82 · June 2012

I agree with PP, it doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me why your FH ex-SIL, is invited? He is divorced from her sister... so why would they come? Anyway, since it is a reality I would just say that you are very sorry that you spelled her name wrong, it wasn't intentional blah blah blah... if she is so mad at you maybe she won't attend...which would probably best for all involved. Mis-spellings happen (I accidentally wrote Mrs. on someone who should be a Ms. oops)

ohnoitskaroljo · June 2012

I believe I've seen odustudent say that she has step children from his previous marriage - so that would be a pretty obvious answer to why ANYONE from the ex-wife's family would be invited.

I'd just swallow my pride and write the apology note (I wouldn't call cause, who the hell wants to make that call? lol) and just try to not let it get to you. It wasn't YOUR mistake anyway.

LibbyC730 · June 2012

We are inviting 2 of my FI's ex-SILs to our wedding. One is now married to his best man (BM and FI were friends long before his ex-SIL and BM met). His BM and his wife invited me to their wedding (I met FI only a few weeks before) and were very gracious in including me. I also graduated with this ex-SIL of FI's, so I knew her and her friends fairly well. The other ex-SIL is kind of the black sheep of her family. Her husband and FI always got along well and she and I used to work for the same organization. We have always gotten along well. FI also has children from his previous marriage, so I let him know I was ok with his ex being invited...he was not : )
However, we enjoy the company of these folks and didn't include his other ex-in-laws because the opposite is true for them. (That's kind of a stretch, FI doesn't enjoy their company, I don't know them enough to have an opinion). I can't imagine his ex-SIL would even want to come...I'll cross my fingers for you that she's "busy" that day. Either way, I'd send an apology note and mention how much you look forward to seeing her on your big day! Kill it with kindness!

odustudent22 · June 2012

Yes, the ex-inlaws that are invited are invited because Jake has made a point of staying in touch with them for the children. FI also told them that the mistake was on his part, and that I felt awful about the mistake. I don't think I'll send a note because the ex in laws are very gossipy and I"m sure it's gotten back to her that I was upset and that he took full blame. He's such a wonderful man (and he STILL laughing about the entire situation). I took the mind set that if a miss spelling is the biggest thing that goes wrong for this wedding, Im blessed.

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