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My flaky family

littleluckypennylittleluckypenny member
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Now it's official:  no one on my dad's side of the family is coming.  My dad, his wife and my sister are the lone members of my clan deciding to show up.  I just got a text (not a call) from my cousin saying that her, my aunt and their friend (who they added to MY guest list without even asking) can't make it, after they told me they would.

Quick call to the caterer to adjust my numbers (thank goodness they still let me do it) and now I had to eliminate my father's table and my mother's table and place them with other existing tables because the numbers/relationships are so off.

Guess I just needed to vent.  Now I'm over it.  As long as I'm married at the end of the day I don't care anymore. :)

Oh, and their cancellation puts us officially below a 50% acceptance rate.  It is now 48%. Bummer.
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  • Ash61612Ash61612 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_my-flaky-family?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:42373c8e-053e-4572-8e82-9aa2c546da9fPost:ee079879-9303-42c0-8c1b-b1597891d518">My flaky family</a>:
    [QUOTE]Now it's official:  no one on my dad's side of the family is coming.  My dad, his wife and my sister are the lone members of my clan deciding to show up.  I just got a text (not a call) from my cousin saying that her, my aunt and their friend (who they added to MY guest list without even asking) can't make it, after they told me they would. Quick call to the caterer to adjust my numbers (thank goodness they still let me do it) and now I had to eliminate my father's table and my mother's table and place them with other existing tables because the numbers/relationships are so off. Guess I just needed to vent.  Now I'm over it.  <strong>As long as I'm married at the end of the day</strong> I don't care anymore. :) Oh, and their cancellation puts us officially below a 50% acceptance rate.  It is now 48%. Bummer.
    Posted by littleluckypenny[/QUOTE]
    this is what you have to keep reminding yourself of. *hugs* it stinks but you are marrying the love of your life
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  • BluIvory82BluIvory82
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    Awwww *hugs* I'm sorry dear.
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  • lobster93lobster93
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    I am in the EXACT same boat. I had to eliminate one whole table because of them too. I feel your pain, but you are exactly right, at the end of the day, you will be married to the man of your dreams as will I. ((HUGS))
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  • rasp.berryrasp.berry
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    I understand your pain. My grandmother is the only person from my dad's side who is coming. It's been an emotional challenge I never really considered earlier in the planning process - not because I completely expected them to come, but that it opened up a whole can of suppressed emotions I've been holding on to about that side of my family.

    I could be way off, but I'm guessing that your emotions in your post stem more from the fact that they're not coming than needing to make last minute arrangements with the caterer. However, it was nice to see that you leave your vent on a positive note about being happy as long as you're married to your FI. Who cares if only 48% of the people come? Your nearest and dearest will be sharing such an important life event with you! Remember: It's quality, not quantity ;)

    I hope you'll be able to work through your feelings about the whole family situation, and I'll bet you'll have THE most amazing day ever on June 9th. Best wishes!!
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  • TeepTeep member
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    I just got off the phone with my parents about the same thing. We're 4 days away, 4 days! They have 5 "maybes" now. We're dropping the check off tomorrow. They better decide quick. We're paying for the wedding ourselves too. 
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  • melntaittmelntaitt member
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    (((BIG HUGS)))

    I'm really sorry that you have to deal with this; you said it best and if you're married at the end of the day then all is well.

    Remember that the people who matter most will be there and you will have an amazing day! Chin up luv - you will be a beautiful bride and all the work will be worth it for the guests who made the effort.
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  • ryaneannryaneann
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    I am sorry that this is happening.  But like you said, at the end of the day you will be married.  And that is the most important thing that matters.
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  • littleluckypennylittleluckypenny member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_my-flaky-family?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:42373c8e-053e-4572-8e82-9aa2c546da9fPost:91abb205-1e05-4179-9b2a-3aff59095678">Re: My flaky family</a>:
    [QUOTE]I understand your pain. My grandmother is the only person from my dad's side who is coming. It's been an emotional challenge I never really considered earlier in the planning process - not because I completely expected them to come, but that it opened up a whole can of suppressed emotions I've been holding on to about that side of my family.<strong> I could be way off, but I'm guessing that your emotions in your post stem more from the fact that they're not coming than needing to make last minute arrangements with the caterer. </strong>However, it was nice to see that you leave your vent on a positive note about being happy as long as you're married to your FI. Who cares if only 48% of the people come? Your nearest and dearest will be sharing such an important life event with you! Remember: It's quality, not quantity ;) I hope you'll be able to work through your feelings about the whole family situation, and I'll bet you'll have THE most amazing day ever on June 9th. Best wishes!!
    Posted by rasp.berry[/QUOTE]

    Absolutely right rasp.berry!  I was kind of expecting it, but having no one from a whole family side downright sucks.  FI is actually more upset than I am, because that side of the family met him first and has been nothing but nice to him to the point that they considered him family long before the engagement.  He feels kind of slighted like they don't like him, and I don't want him to feel this way. 

    I remember some of your posts regarding your family situation as well.  At least your grandmother can make it, and I know it will be a fantastic day for you!
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  • littleluckypennylittleluckypenny member
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    Thanks everyone!  Just needed to vent and then move on. 

    All our weddings will ROCK, regardless of who can make it! Smile
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  • paigejessicapaigejessica
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    *hugs* I'm sorry girly. Your day will still be awesome regardless!
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  • brittneyh4brittneyh4
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    You know, weddings bring out the crazy in people, and it also brings out the odd family dynamics. You're right, at the end of the day, you're gonna be married! How exciting!

    Put a positive spin - few less people you don't have to pay per plate for. :) Hello, new, fun honeymoon activity!
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