RSVP Reminder... yay or nay?

chanelnjustin · August 2012

I have had 32 out of 132 people RSVP so far and the RSVPs are due in two weeks... is it inappropriate to send out an reminder FB message or email to have the guest RSVP by the due date. After the requested date I do plan on having my MOH call the guests who hasn't RSVPd and get a confirmation from them. I just feel like this is a larger number or is this typical?

Thanks!

jessicabessica · August 2012

Ditto Stage. It's very typical. Don't nag your guests.

wrigleyville · August 2012

They still have a couple weeks. Once it's been a few days past the due date (to allowfor mail time), start calling people. Your MOH should not be doing this; it's your responsibility. Have your FI help you.

Avion22 · August 2012

Please do not "remind" people to send back RSVPs. Some people will send them back, and some won't, but a reminder is rude, and won't really help those who weren't going to send it back anyway (and insults those who weren't going to forget in the first place).

NOLAbridealmost · August 2012

Please DO NOT have your MOH call for RSVPs. The only ones who should call for RSVPs are the hosts of the wedding or anyone who had a hand in creating the guest list (you, FI, your parents for the people they chose to invite). Not only is that a lot of work that you shouldn't foist on the MOH, it's incredibly awkward for guests to get a call from someone they may not even know regarding their RSVP.

No reminders either; trust me....tons of RSVPs will trickle in as the due date gets closer.

direy25 · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvp-reminder-yay-or-nay?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:359ca8d0-e1ac-424c-b098-971c65eb129fPost:af4080dd-a912-4049-abe5-83dc647ebd82">Re: RSVP Reminder... yay or nay?</a>:
[QUOTE]Please DO NOT have your MOH call for RSVPs. The only ones who should call for RSVPs are the hosts of the wedding or anyone who had a hand in creating the guest list (you, FI, your parents for the people they chose to invite). Not only is that a lot of work that you shouldn't foist on the MOH, it's incredibly awkward for guests to get a call from someone they may not even know regarding their RSVP. No reminders either; trust me....tons of RSVPs will trickle in as the due date gets closer.
Posted by NOLAbridealmost[/QUOTE]
All of this. And why would you think it's appropriate to have your MOH do the calls?

spudshirley · August 2012

For me, personally, I can't stand when someone calls me to ask if we are coming BEFORE the RSVP is due. All I think to myself is, "Why did you give me an RSVP date if you're just going to call to ask if I'm coming before the due date anyway?"

Like everyone else said, give it a couple of days after the RSVP date to start making calls. I bet the RSVPs will start flowing in within the next two weeks. We, unfortunately, live in a world of people doing everything last minute!

freebread03 · August 2012

Why are you having your MOH call? That is so strange to me--I would be so weirded out if a total stranger called me instead of you or FI. And its so rude to bug people prior to the deadline--you might as well not have one if a reminder is required.

Loopyseven · August 2012

No reminders. We got probably close to half of our RSVP's in the last few days, and another few in the few days after the due date.

Your MOH has no business making these calls for you. Following up on missing RSVP's is something for you, your FI, and maybe your parents to handle depending on the relationship of the person you're following up with.

willywally5 · August 2012

Wait until a few days after due date. Today was due date for DD's wedding and we got nine in the mail just today. I'm sure there will be more on Monday and even Tuesday. And then DD, her FI and I will be contacting the non-responders. It sucks to wait, but you just have to do it. It's part of being a good host.

RebeccaB88 · August 2012

You have two weeks. Why the rush? People have plenty of time to get back to you.

And it's no one's responsibility to call these people (later) but yours and your FI (and possibly your parents). You're out of line to ask your MOH to do any of this for you. Your wedding, your problem.

Lisa50 · August 2012

Breathe and relax. Honestly, I'm not sure anything is typical ... except there will be late responders. Wait until a week or 10 days after the stated response date, then make phone calls.

It would not be out of the norm (based on what I've read on the boards) for you to need to reach out to about 10% of your guest list two weeks after the response date.

bellasmomma716 · August 2012

I gotta agree, just wait it out. And yeah I'd like maybe split the list - those that are in his family, have him and like his mom call and for in yours, you and your mom.

katiebo1013 · August 2012

Ya, you def dont want to send a reminder out prior to your RSVP date, however, I'd say 5- 1 week after it is definatly appropriate to ask your guests. I got a lot of people message me via facebook to say they lost their rsvp but will be attending. I dont think its takcy to use fb, its just how we communticate these days- not that I would ever send out the wedding invites though an event page lol (i have heard of this happening)

0kristaschmidt0 · September 2013

I don't understand the mentality of getting offended that somebody has reminded you to RSVP. I think you should be able to do whatever you want and if people get offended that's their problem for being offended. All you're trying to do is get an accurate head count, it's entirely reasonable for you to remind invitees to RSVP. If you want to send RSVP reminders 2 weeks before, after or any time in between, you should do that without worrying what others will think... because it doesn't matter.

SlothGoals · September 2013

@0kristaschmidt0 this thread is from over a year ago, just FYI.

0kristaschmidt0 · September 2013

my point is valid and timeless

misshart00 · September 2013

0kristaschmidt0 said:

my point is valid and timeless

Your point is obnoxious.

How did you even find this thread? I'm always curious when people pull up zombie threads just to argue.

APDSS22 · September 2013

Oh great, Friday the 13th and we have a zombie rising.

SlothGoals · September 2013

0kristaschmidt0 said:

I don't understand the mentality of getting offended that somebody has reminded you to RSVP. I think you should be able to do whatever you want and if people get offended that's their problem for being offended. All you're trying to do is get an accurate head count, it's entirely reasonable for you to remind invitees to RSVP. If you want to send RSVP reminders 2 weeks before, after or any time in between, you should do that without worrying what others will think... because it doesn't matter.

I would be offended if someone reminded me to RSVP because I am an adult and am fully capable of reading a wedding invitation and RSVP card.

The couple in question who decide to remind me two weeks before the date they've asked me to reply by would be supremely annoying because if they wanted RSVPs sooner they should have put an earlier date.

Ajuliana · September 2013

misshart00 said:
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0kristaschmidt0 said:

my point is valid and timeless

Your point is obnoxious.

How did you even find this thread? I'm always curious when people pull up zombie threads just to argue.

Thank God you're back.

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