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  SocialWorker2B member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I don't get it - you don't want things you've registered for your wedding for either Xmas or your birthday? Why not?
  
  Maybe because I don't like many things but I would be thrilled to get things I didn't get for my wedding for this upcoming Xmas.
  
  I think the only tactful way to do it is to make sure people know of other things you want (like if you're out shopping with your mom, mention this sweater that you lurve but can't afford because of the wedding costs). But I don't understand TBH.
  
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  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I wish I had some advice for you, but honestly I would think that registry items are great holiday gifts since obviously they're things that you want and I totally understand people choosing to buy off there if they don't know what else to get you.  I think without providing another list of items that you want, you may just have to deal with people getting you items off of your registry.

  
  

  As for what to do about the bedding, I would just still get your bedding on sale and then when you get the bedding from whoever got it for you just return that one and get a credit at the store.  I really don't think there's a tactful way to tell people to not buy you items off a list of things that you've indicated you wanted.  GL!

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  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I'm getting married on NYE and I'm hoping to get items off my registry for Christmas. I agree with the pp there is not tactful way to ask people not to buy off your registry for the holidays.

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  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Thanks ladies....I don't think I could EVER say anything about purchasing gifts to ANYONE, this post got the best of me in the heat of a discussion with FI...it is not my style at all!
  
  FI and I are going to enjoy Christmas (and our birthdays) to the fullest....even if it starts to look like our shower when opening gifts:)

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  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Don't say anything to anyone.  Like PP said, it's a list of things you want, so it is an easy shopping list.  I was happy to receive gifts from our registry whenever we received them.

  
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  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I have been referring people to our registry for holiday gifts (when they ask of course)--we actually already got our comforter from my mom.  But again--I have gotten kichen stuff for the last three Christmases because I love to cook.  I can see if you are not into cooking stuff wanting other things.  I think the only way to spread the word would be if people directly ask you what you want for Christmas and then you should give them some ideas not say "something not from the registry"

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  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Sorry hon. I think this is one time that you will have to let it go.
  
  I get that you are not ungrateful for the gifts, but nonetheless, I think this is one of those occasions where something won't go as you planned it, and you just have to roll with it.
  
  The end result will still be positive: you get lots of cool stuff and you have great family and friends who like you enough to buy you things.
  

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  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Maybe tell your parents or a close friend to kinda spread the word. Are you thinking you want different stuff for xmas and bday? 
  Personally, not buying all the kitchen stuff on my registry myself has been KILLING me (I love to cook!) so I told my parents and siblings the stuff I really needed (ok, wanted) off the registry. 

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  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Maybe they are just shopping the sales ahead of time for the actual wedding?  You can't assume that they are purchasing for XMas, just because that's the next holiday coming up.  You might just have to grin & bear it.    Or have you thought about adding some "fun" items to your registry that you wouldn't MIND getting for bdays/xmas?  Just a thought....
  
  I've been BEGGING my family to buy things off our registry for bday/xmas gifts for the past 2 years (we have a 2.5y engagement and registered right away at the request of FI's family who wanted to get us some engagement gifts).  NO ONE WILL DO IT!  They all say that that's wedding stuff and not bday/xmas stuff.  What?!  I picked it all out, it's all stuff I want, and honestly, I'd rather have fun new kitchen stuff, cool stuff for our apartment (like some of the vases, picture frames, etc), or fun outdoorsy items (we also registered at REI!), then the typical gifts I get.  We got a few items for our engagement, and have bought some of the stuff for ourselves with awesome sales, but no one will give any of it for any other occasion.  I'm not saying that I am expecting place settings or steak knives, but a camp stove, or waffle iron would be awesome

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  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Yep, I agree that this one doens't make sense to me.  I LOVED getting registry gifts for Christmas last year!  I was so sad when we deleted our registry after the wedding...  I'd love to create another one before Christmas and my birthday roll around! 

  
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