I wasn't sure where to post this.
This summer will be 4 years i've been with my fiance. We both celebrate christmas. The past 3 have been with his family. I told him that once we get married we should alternate holidays. [thanksgiving and christmas] I feel it would be fare. He isn't too happy about it and doesn't 100% agree with it, and still hasn't told his family because they will FREAK on him. [his sister lectured him about how people have family who travel just to visit family on xmas (she lives 20 mins from him so i dont see where that's coming from) when he brought up an idea of spending xmas alone just me and him and kids(when we have them)].
I told him I thought it was fair because what happes when my sister gets married and has kids-I wont be able to see them on xmas or spend the holiday with them! I didnt think that was fair and I wouldnt want to miss that. Also when we have kids I feel it would be best for them to alternate xmas with families so they would still both sides. [we would do thanksgiving and xmas eve one family and xmas the other..every year switch & the other holidays discuss after]
Also- I feel pretty bad to leave my parents and sister alone on xmas. My sister isn't married, and doesnt have kids.
His family is his parents , a sister, a brother, another sister/BIL w/2 nephews.
My familys so small. So they really are alone. His family isn't. So I feel bad. My dad says he doesnt care, but I'm sure deep down he does. I can tell when we talk. because me and my dad and super close.
I was just wonder, am I wrong? What other things could we try?
What do you& your husband/fiance do?