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MissButtersMissButters
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Hey.  I was wondering if some of you can help me shed light on the seating chart,  which I'm starting to work on.  We are doing a sweetheart table, and plan on sitting the bridal party with their dates and with people they know (so not sitting all the bridal party together).  My real question is about our friends.  We're aiming for about 8 at a table.  Is it better to try to do half my friends and half of FI's friends, or make the tables all my friends and all of FI's friends.  I basically don't know if we should try to mix our friends or not.  My original thought was as long as people on my side know the other people on my side, and same with FI's friends, it was fine to mix.  but, now I'm wondering if my friends would have more fun sitting with people that they know instead of only a few people they know. 

(sorry if this is worded weird and doesn't make a lot of sense).
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  • smw42smw42 member
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    edited December 2011
    We just finished our seating chart and we sat friends with who they know. So my friends are not sitting with his friends. We kinda grouped loosely based on how we know each friend (ie: college friends table, hs friends table, work friends table, etc). Hope that helps!
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  • Heather822Heather822
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_seating-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:c91f7159-4ed5-4d38-be20-c6bc44815e33Post:db734bd4-2450-43b0-8449-1d93b35d7da8">Re: Seating Advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]We just finished our seating chart and we sat friends with who they know. So my friends are not sitting with his friends. We kinda grouped loosely based on how we know each friend (ie: college friends table, hs friends table, work friends table, etc). Hope that helps!
    Posted by smw42[/QUOTE]

    <font color="#008080">We did the same thing.
    We had the options of doing tables of 8, 10, or 12.
    Most tables were 12.</font>
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  • MissButtersMissButters
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks everyone.  It seems to be a lot easier if I try not to mix our friends  up (but I still may try to seat some singles together as long as they'll know other people at the table..).
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  • Little SpitfireLittle Spitfire
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_seating-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:c91f7159-4ed5-4d38-be20-c6bc44815e33Post:db734bd4-2450-43b0-8449-1d93b35d7da8">Re: Seating Advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]We just finished our seating chart and we sat friends with who they know. So my friends are not sitting with his friends. We kinda grouped loosely based on how we know each friend (ie: college friends table, hs friends table, work friends table, etc). Hope that helps!
    Posted by smw42[/QUOTE]

    I did the same
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  • cutiepie12702cutiepie12702
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    edited December 2011
    I think the large majority of people would rather sit with people they know. It's much more fun to have real conversations with people you have things in common with and are familiar with, than to try and make small talk with people you either don't know or barely know. I was seated at a wedding a few months ago the way you are describing as doing half and half...and we kept to ourselves and they kept to themselves. We were really shocked that there were people we actually knew at the wedding (even our own family) and yet they didn't seat us with them. It kind of left a bad taste in my mouth and now I know if it comes down to it, I will make sure I don't make a big deal out of trying to accomodate their seating arrangements when my time comes.
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  • jrgoogrljrgoogrl
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_seating-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:c91f7159-4ed5-4d38-be20-c6bc44815e33Post:db734bd4-2450-43b0-8449-1d93b35d7da8">Re: Seating Advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]We just finished our seating chart and we sat friends with who they know. So my friends are not sitting with his friends. We kinda grouped loosely based on how we know each friend (ie: college friends table, hs friends table, work friends table, etc). Hope that helps!
    Posted by smw42[/QUOTE]
    This is what we're doing!
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  • USER876USER876
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    edited December 2011
    Mix them up if they are single!
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  • smw42smw42 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_seating-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:c91f7159-4ed5-4d38-be20-c6bc44815e33Post:09ea69d5-4f17-4147-be5c-82d2a4a8529d">Re: Seating Advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]Mix them up if they are single!
    Posted by USER876[/QUOTE]


    I agree! We didn't have any single guests so that wasn't an issue- but I have been to weddings with a "singles" table and it seems like a fun idea.
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  • MissButtersMissButters
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks everyone!! 
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  • mariaNryan mariaNryan
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    edited December 2011
    when I go to a wedding I like to sit with people I know so I am comftable!
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  • goaliegirlgoaliegirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Please seat them with people they know!  People are more comfortable when they are sitting with familiar friends.    I went to a wedding once where someone did this and it definitely wasn't as much fun as sitting with people we know.  
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  • kwilkinson14kwilkinson14
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    edited December 2011
    I am going to sit people with who they know. So I will keep my friends together and his friends together. They really don't know each other and would just be that much more uncomfortable. If I did have single friends I would think about sitting them at their own table.
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  • capecod1986capecod1986
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    edited December 2011
    Always more fun to sit with people you know. 
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  • uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    People they know.  I've been seated at lots of tables where I only knew maybe one or two more couples (because sometimes I just haven't known all that many people at weddings), and while that's fine, usually we didn't end up mingling with the other people at the table except for introductions and maybe a tiny bit of polite conversation here and there.  (Particularly because at round tables with tall centerpieces, you're separated enough from the other side of the table that it can be hard to chat with those across the table even if you're really inclined to.)  That is totally fine if that's the way it works out -- but if there are other people I know, I'd prefer to sit with them!
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