Help! How to tastfully collect $ for bachelorette party ahead of time?

Re: Help! How to tastfully collect $ for bachelorette party ahead of time?

• hlq2011

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  For my one FSIL's bach party, her sister asked everyone to send their portion of the hotel room cost to her home address, and make any checks out to their dad.
  
  Edit:  This was for 12 girls going to NYC.  They all paid for their own bus tickets.

  

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• mkovacik

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  My sister is sending out a facebook message after she gets the invitations out that will include some secret information she doesn't want me to know and a link to her PayPal account.  The girls will pay for their hotel room and any other costs through that or they'll mail her a check. 

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• sister2groom

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  Just please get budgets ahead of time and stick to them and then it won't really matter how you do it because you'll avoid akward "I can't afford this" conversations.

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• RebeccaB88 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  Did all of these people offer to help pay, and did you consider everyone's budget beforehand?  Was everything discussed and agreed upon ahead of time?  If so, you can just have them mail you a check or do a paypal thing, or arrange somehow for them to get cash to you.  Collecting the day of might just be easier, though.
  
  If you're just assuming that everyone will be able to chip in the assigned amount of money, reconsider.  If people want to contribute they will offer.  Don't ask them for anything, and if no one wants to contribute, then pay for it yourself or cancel or downscale the event to what you can afford.

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• heinz11msw

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  With the invites for my party, my MOH will put in there that she requests payment by check 2 weeks prior to the event else a spot will not be reserved for them in the limo. So.. if someone wants to come to the pre-party at the hosue thats cool. If they don't pay up then they can't come tothe bars in the limo.

  

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• cindy9178 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  From personal experience, I'd say its going to be pretty tough to get all of the money from 20 people beforehand. Be prepared for people to say they will pay you later, or don't have enough money. I've seen it happen many, many times.
  I went to a bachelorette party recently, and one of the BMs told the MOH she would pay her that night. Well she ended up giving her a check... she had to pay the limo driver, and couldn't do that with her check, so she had to go to an atm and take out more of her own money to pay the limo driver - I just thought that was very inconsiderate.

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• brianmatic member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  I recommend Pay It Square (http://www.payitsquare.com) to help.  I was very helpful.

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• kmmssg mod

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  Brianmatic - I fear you are a vendor and am reporting this post.  I found it strange that you would post this as your first post and then I looked at the website.  It talks about Brian A. having an idea to make collecting money from sports teams easier.  Vendors advertising their business is against the TOS.

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• hayanyujah847

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  Thanks for this post. I'm currently in the same situation of collecting money, solely for the limo for the night. I'm thinking of asking people to mail me a check or remit payment via paypal.

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