Send-off

melb2013 · August 2012

I've been trying to get some ideas for a send-off, or at least, a graceful way of leaving the wedding. I don't want to be the last ones to leave- I like the concept of being the first to leave as a signal that the wedding is over.

We're thinking about maybe doing a send-off. Everyone would come outside to see us off. I love how sparklers look, but I always think they're really dangerous. No fire for me please. Then there's the idea of old-fashioned rice, but I guess birds choke or whatever and the venue would have a tough time cleaning it up. So we found bio-degradable confetti. It's super cheap and we can get it in coordinating colors. I could sew little draw string bags for the confetti. Here's the site where I found the confetti: http://www.bridesvillage.com/ecofetti.html

Has anybody ever used biodegradable confetti before? Did it work well? Are you doing a send-off?

SSaltzman87 · August 2012

The biodegradable confetti appeals to eco-friendly tendencies :-)

Most venues here don't allow rice or confetti period. Haven't thought about a sendoff, probably won't do one.

melb2013 · August 2012

I'm not a particularly eco-conscious person, but I thought this would work well because it washed away with water

I also like the pretty colors. I haven't checked with the venue yet- will definitely do that before I buy anything.

aprahamian2 · August 2012

Probably not doing a send-off, but I do think the colorful confetti is a nice idea if you are.

FLGatorGal88 · August 2012

we havent discussed this yet but i do like the confetti idea though.

rswans · August 2012

We're probably not doing a send off because our reception is at night (until 11pm) and my FI wants to be the last to leave. The only time I've really seen them work is with afternoon receptions that are over by 5. Otherwise, even if the couple planned one, a few people usually start taking off a little after dinner at night, especially if they're older/don't dance/drove far/have kids/just had a long day. The one time a couple tried it at a night wedding, people started to leave, so they hurried to leave and were gone within an hour and half of dinner and with about an hour and a half left on the venue, dj, etc. No idea what your timing is, just something to think about.

That said, the confetti is really cute. You could also buy little drawstring organza bags to hold it at places like Joann's pretty inexpensively.

melb2013 · August 2012

We're having an evening wedding. If people leave before, it's not a big deal. Nobody has to be a part of the send-off. If there's only half the people left, I don't care- I don't want it to be a big production, but I don't want to be the last to leave.

According to proper etiquette, one shouldn't leave before the bride and groom as the bride and groom are suppose to be the first to leave. Family weddings always worked like this. I was super confused when I started going to friend's weddings and the bride and groom didn't leave... Etiquette has been amended to state that you can leave before the bride and groom if they don't appear to be leaving first according to Emily Post and Miss Manners. I don't feel odd about leaving before the bride and groom anymore, but at our wedding we do not want to be the last to leave.

I'll definitely look at bags at Joanns. Thanks!

pittpoint1119 · August 2012

We won't be having a send off. I wanna be the last anyway to leave! FI and i wanna enjoy the night with family and friends. Actually we are staying at the same hotel as everyone too but in a different section and will probably be at the bar after with everyone else there!

ptobias45 · August 2012

We never really even thought about having a send off. Our reception is in the evening and we probably won't have one.

sbc2013 · August 2012

I really like the confetti idea, Mel! Ability to choose a color and therefore fit into your theme = I'm sold.

We are doing a send-off. I personally get anxious at a wedding when I'm not sure if the bride and groom are doing a send-off and leaving first or if they plan to stick around and I should leave when I want, so a send-off is attractive to me for this reason. Our venue doesn't allow rice or confetti or sparklers, so I'm not really sure what the send-off will entail...but we will figure it out. I did see something on Pinterest about a lantern send-off. Apparently the bags just float down to the ground after a few hours and they can be picked up in the morning. I like that idea.

Also, I was listening to the radio last week and they said that birds choking/dying by eating rice is actually a myth. Apparently birds eat uncooked rice all the time, so I wouldn't worry about that if it is something you want to do

sbc2013 · August 2012

Oh, I found the picture of the lantern send-off!

melb2013 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]I really like the confetti idea, Mel! Ability to choose a color and therefore fit into your theme = I'm sold. We are doing a send-off. I personally get anxious at a wedding when I'm not sure if the bride and groom are doing a send-off and leaving first or if they plan to stick around and I should leave when I want, so a send-off is attractive to me for this reason. Our venue doesn't allow rice or confetti or sparklers, so I'm not really sure what the send-off will entail...but we will figure it out. I did see something on Pinterest about a lantern send-off. Apparently the bags just float down to the ground after a few hours and they can be picked up in the morning. I like that idea. <strong>Also, I was listening to the radio last week and they said that birds choking/dying by eating rice is actually a myth. </strong>Apparently birds eat uncooked rice all the time, so I wouldn't worry about that if it is something you want to do :)
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</div><div>I read that too. If the venue is okay with rice, we might do that, but I really like that the confetti melts and that it comes in pretty colors! Glad to hear someone else is doing a send-off :) I figure we'll put the confetti bags at the entrance during the night with a sign that indicates that they are for the send-off- that way people will know there is a send-off.
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melb2013 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]Oh, I found the picture of the lantern send-off!
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</div><div>That's gorgeous! Fire still freaks me out though! lol

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rswans · August 2012

sbc- if you can't toss anything, maybe you can do ribbon wands. I had a friend use them for her send off and it was pretty and made for some awesome pictures.

melb2013 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]sbc- <strong>if you can't toss anything, maybe you can do ribbon wands.</strong> I had a friend use them for her send off and it was pretty and made for some awesome pictures.
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<div>I've heard of that! Love it!</div>

sbc2013 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Send-off : I read that too. If the venue is okay with rice, we might do that, but I really like that the confetti melts and that it comes in pretty colors! Glad to hear someone else is doing a send-off :) <strong>I figure we'll put the confetti bags at the entrance during the night with a sign that indicates that they are for the send-off- that way people will know there is a send-off.</strong>
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<div>That's a great idea--I would have totally planned a send-off and not thought about letting the guests know, LOL. I think that's a great idea!</div><div>
</div><div>And rswans, I like that! Did it show up in the pictures or was it all sort of a blur?</div>

rswans · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Send-off : That's a great idea--I would have totally planned a send-off and not thought about letting the guests know, LOL. I think that's a great idea! And rswans, I like that! <strong>Did it show up in the pictures or was it all sort of a blur?</strong>
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<div>The pictures I saw had the ribbons distinct and crisp. It was like a little tunnel for them. </div>

sbc2013 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Send-off : The pictures I saw had the ribbons distinct and crisp. It was like a little tunnel for them.
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<div>Awesome! That's really what I was worried about--I mean, I would love it aesthetically in person, but I do want to be able to look back on it and see the ribbons :) I might just have to incorporate this!</div>

jenjlgsings · August 2012

Yes, the rice/bird thing is a myth.

What is not a myth, however, is what a pain the rice/bird seed may be... A friend did it at her wedding and said it really hurt when it hit them. Not that people were pelting it at them (although some people probably did) but just to have that much thrown at you at once. It also gets everywhere. In your hair, in your clothes, etc. I suppose it won't matter as much for you since you are doing it as the send off and not at the church, but still something to think about. I'm sure the confetti won't hurt, but will the color potentially stain the dress, etc?

augurey · August 2012

I think the biodegradable confetti would be fun!

We're not doing a send off. We'll be the last to leave as we'll be cleaning up.

Have you given your send off any more thought?

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