My bridesmaids kept asking me about what they needed to do for the bridal shower. I told them it was up to them and what they wanted to do. So they kept asking me so I asked if my mom would step in and coordinate it and just ask them for help/opinions. Well mom contacted everyone and only 2 have even made an effort to come up with ideas etc. So this puts me having to help mom out (which I don't mind) I have just finished filling out 50 invites and got all the addresses labeled and ready to go. PLUS, I have to make the chicken salad for the crossiant sandwiches on the day of the bridal shower. I really don't mind helping out and my bridesmaids seem pretty clueless but it's frustrating when I really wanted it all to be a surprise. There is now no surprise element at all. I know who's invited, what we are eating, where it's going to be, etc. I was really hoping the girls would take control so I would have at least one thing that didn't have my name all over it for this wedding. Sorry if I'm sounding a bit whiney. I'm so grateful mom is steppiing up and she is getting some help from FI's mom as well. I really don't mind helping, I just wanted one surprise.