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2 maids of honor?

jrusso36jrusso36
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I'm having MOH anxiety.  I put off asking my MOH to be in my wedding for a long time because I struggled with who to ask. Last week I finally asked my oldest friend - my best friend from high school.  Although we still talk on the phone quite often, we went to college in different parts of the country and only see each other once a year (if that) and she seemed a little surprised that I even chose her.  Meanwhile, I've been kind of regretting the decision because my current best friend (from college) knows me so much better and were alot closer. I think I made the wrong decision!!! What should I do?! Does anyone have 2 maids of honor? Is it a slap in the face to my friend I already asked if I tell her I'm having 2 maids of honor now? I need some advice...HELP ME!!
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Re: 2 maids of honor?

  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_2-maids-of-honor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:90675333-054a-4a9d-82a9-149d374073d6Post:199eed49-5410-4a83-a7ba-f96c672efb98">2 maids of honor?</a>:
    [QUOTE]What should I do?! [/QUOTE]
    I think you should just have 2 MOH.

    <strong>Does anyone have 2 maids of honor? </strong>
    A few brides on here have done that. It's perfectly acceptable.

    <strong>Is it a slap in the face to my friend I already asked if I tell her I'm having 2 maids of honor now? </strong>
    If she thinks of it as a slap in the face, then she needs to get over it, seriously.

    <strong>I need some advice...HELP ME!!</strong>
    Breathe, hun, breeeeathe. It's absolutely fine to have two MOH, honest.
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  • mob112710mob112710
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    edited December 2011
    Two MOH is perfectly acceptable.  My DD and two other girls have been best friends for over 15 years. When the first of the trio got married last year the other two were MOH and the same will happen later this year when DD gets married. My FSIL will have one BM but there will be an equal number of attendants on each side (although unequal numbers wouldn't be a bad thing). The title that you give to each of your attendants is your choice -- you could have no MOH and that would be ok too.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes, you can have co-MOH.  It's done more often that you think.  One stands next to you in the ceremony, and the other signs the license. 

    But if you're asking because the college friend will "do more" for the wedding than the geographically far away friend, then you're choosing MOH for the wrong reason. 

    MOH is a person that you love so much you can't imagine not having her with you on your wedding day.  It's NOT the person who will become a wedding planner for you.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • JDubenicJDubenic
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    edited December 2011
    I went through the very same thing. I know how difficult it feels but honestly the advise above is correct. My oldest friend was an easy and natural choice. Where I had problems was explaining to my current bestie that she would share the title because they both mean the world to me in different ways. Remember this is your day and it is about what is special to you and your fiance. Best of luck!
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  • Speechie1970Speechie1970 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am lucky enough to have two best friends.  I can't chose which one would be my MOH - so they both are.  You are blessed to have two good friends who seem appropriate.  I agree with the girls!  2 MOH is a great idea!
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