FI and I have had some major struggles over the passed few months and hard decisons. When FI proposed to me he was in recovery after a sporting accident that required 2 pretty major surgeries on his knee and the possiblity of nerve damage for life (drop foot). At that point we knew the expected outcome of healing time was 6 months and an orthotic that could make work a possiblity again if the nerve damage didn't heal, worse case scenario. We made the decision to have our Hawaii wedding because it was an inexpensive/achievable way to make our wedding happen in a years time on my income and his disability. A few months into our wedding planning was when the parents (both sides) decided that they wanted to make the AHR happen for us - they felt we might regret it at a later date when things were better financially later on and they wanted to give that to us as a gift.
December FI put his name back on the list to work when he successfully healed (nerve damage too) and got approval to return to work. His healing time was right on schedule. When you put your name on the list to return to work, the disability cheques stop and unfortunately his line of work relies on a good economy which we did not have at that point and wasn't something we could have predicted when we started planning. Despite the fact that in the beginning FI's parents wanted to contribute and actually spoke the words "if things don't work out don't you worry, the money will be there for you" they had a change of heart and decided that our priorities weren't in the right place. Although they never spoke the words, we know from action and the fact that they never want to talk about the wedding or be involved that they believe we should have postponed the wedding. The thought of postponing did cross our mind MULTIPLE times, as devastating as it would be, we started to worry that he may not get work in time. My Dad encouraged us to keep the planning going and that regardless of our financial state he wanted to fund the AHR with or without FI's parents - he didn't feel we should pay for reception.
After all of this stress and guilt from FI's parents FI got the return to work call and started back today. Although only 2 months out I have worked my butt off saving and budgeting to pay for some things and all of our trip to Hawaii. I had pulled together everything required for our wedding but we were forfeiting somethings like special pampering before the big day, endless ability to do whatever we wanted in Hawaii, etc........................ The weight of the world was lifted today and everything we want/waned is acheivable now.
