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Whispered Vows?

Bryan&AmyCBryan&AmyC
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in October 2012 Weddings
I read this article earlier and wanted to know what you ladies thought about the idea of whispered vows. Anyone thinking of incorporating it into their ceremony?
I think it's really sweet and romantic, but knowing my and FI's family, I know they would be sad they couldn't hear our vows. I'm sure they'd be asking us all night what we said!
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  • shoebieshoebie member
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    Not a fan, everyone is there to watch you excahnge vows so not to share that with them is odd to me.
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  • Heath66Heath66
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    I love the idea. Those vows are only for the couple. If we had vows in our church I would seriously consider whispering them. 
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  • lehc723lehc723 member
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    My minister told a story of a couple he married who had really, uh, sensual and personal vows that they'd written that he thought would make people uncomfortable, so he had them whisper those but then loudly say the traditional ones for everyone. Something to make everyone happy!
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  • ljsquintzljsquintz member
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    edited June 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_whispered-vows?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:d1257597-baf6-4372-9abf-8e7e28223ee9Post:672b3b9d-a996-44cb-9fdc-823d5fb6479b">Re: Whispered Vows?</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>Not a fan, everyone is there to watch you excahnge vows so not to share that with them is odd to me.</strong>
    Posted by shoebie420[/QUOTE]
    I agree.  If you want your vows to be private, have a ceremony with just the two of you and the officiant.
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  • AEPerpeteAEPerpete member
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    I think the only way this works out best is if either person has a fear of public speaking, or something of the sort. Otherwise, everyone wants to hear you...and you could also save the more personal vows for a letter to send the morning of to your sweetie.
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  • PetalPockets2012PetalPockets2012 member
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    it sort of sounds creepy to me. I would be a little irritated if I came to your ceremony and you intentionally didn't let me hear what you said. Just my opinion.
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  • mrshall1027mrshall1027
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    I've never heard of this.  I would definitely side eye this if I went to a wedding where they whispered their vows.
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  • ReyesToyReyesToy
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    edited June 2012
    Same as PPs, I wouldn't be comfortable as a guest because if i'm not meant to hear it, I feel like I shouldn't be staring at the couple and should get up to leave the room. Also, guests might start whispering to each other about what they think of that moment...

    I think they would be cute in a letter or maybe after the ceremony, during the cocktail hour, you guys can have a private moment and say those vows to each other...
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  • Bryan&AmyCBryan&AmyC
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    To clarify, I didn't mean we were thinking about the whispered vows, I just wondered what you all thought about it!
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  • CarolineandDeanCarolineandDean member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_whispered-vows?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:d1257597-baf6-4372-9abf-8e7e28223ee9Post:673f28b8-4ef3-4cff-b3d5-e1e8bd61d231">Re: Whispered Vows?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I've never heard of this.  I would definitely side eye this if I went to a wedding where they whispered their vows.
    Posted by ystaalenburg[/QUOTE]
    Agreed!
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  • poison+kissespoison+kisses
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    I've never heard of whispered vows. While the ideas seems romantic, having the vows be so personal that they're basically just shared with eachother, as a guest I would find it really weird and feel awkward. I would feel like I'm intruding on them, and wonder why everyone was invited if they didn't want people to hear them. But mostly I would feel so awkward sitting there watching people whisper to eachother. 
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  • SomethingBeautiful08SomethingBeautiful08 member
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    I personally don't like the idea.  I don't like it when you can't hear their voices due to poor sound systems.  From a guest perspective I think it is at best awkward and a worst down right rude.  I think there should be private "vows" in a marriage, but they don't need to be said in public, that is what private vow renewals, love notes, and stolen or intentional private moments in the day are for.

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