Hey guys,
So I really would like my older sister Hannah to be my maid of honor because family is very important to me and I do want a really good relationship with my sister. She and I have had a rocky relationship these past few years, especially dealing with her moving out of my parents' house and the stress that came along with my mother being diagnosed with cancer, but we have made leaps and bounds and have gotten much closer since then. A few of my family members feel that I shouldn't be getting married so soon, including my older sister. She is constantly making side comments about it and trying to persuade me to change my mind to change our date. On top of this, she hasn't been very excited whatsoever about wedding planning or anything like that. For example, I've been trying to invite her to Bridal Shows with me but every time she either stands me up or comes up with some excuse not to go. I understand that people's lives don't revolve around my wedding, and trust me, I don't want it to be like that at all. I guess the biggest thing is that I really want her to be happy for me, and for us to share this special moment together but it doesn't seem like she's making an effort to do either. It's just tough, cuz I really want our relationship to work...maybe I'm being childish and overreacting. I just needed to get that out I guess.

256 Invited so far!

190 Are ready to party!

48 Will be missing out!

18 Are MIA!

Re: MOH Issues...
Oh, and just a sidenote, a MOH should not be measured by her willingness to help or be excited. She should be who you are closest to, and who you know will be there for you no matter what.
I got married when I was 21 and i had countless people tell me i was too young and to wait. I got through it by knowing I am very mature for my age and took the vows and the responsibility very seriously...plus i know my relationship better than anyone else ever could. Just know in your heart its your decision and try not to let it bother you.
[QUOTE]Thanks LittleMissCutie. Yah, I know that an MOH is defined by someone that I'm closest to, and I guess I thought that was my sister since I don't really have that many "girl" friends. You do, however, expect an MOH to at least be happy for you; she may not agree with all the decisions you make and respectfully so, but the least she can do is be happy for you.
Posted by mnt2bonstg[/QUOTE]
Why would you expect somebody you admit you have a rocky relationship with to suddenly change their entire personality just because you're getting married?
I'm not saying it's not okay to be disappointed that she's not happy for you, but you know that's how it is, so you shouldn't be surprised when she doesn't want to do wedding things.
Your wedding is still a ways away. You should focus on continuing to improve your relationship with your sister for now and leave your wedding completely out of it. As the relationship between the two of you improves, hopefully she'll come around to the idea of you getting married, but for now, you can't expect things to change over night.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MOH Issues... : Why would you expect somebody you admit you have a rocky relationship with to suddenly change their entire personality just because you're getting married?
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]
THIS!!!!
My sister is my MOH and honestly she doesn't get excited about anything! I have asked her opinions on certain choices and i all i get is an "i dunno" answer.
But i asked her because i know although she may not be as excited as i am i know she supports me and she supports my relationship. My FI has had some issues in the past (and present) which makes my parents not his biggest fans but my sister has never judged him and sees how happy i am with him.
I think you should wait and see if she becomes more accepting of the fact that you're getting married and if not find someone who is.
Also, don't ask anyone else to be in your bridal party until you make a decision about your sister. The last thing you would want is to ask a friend now to be a BM, then 8 months later you ask your sister. It will make it seem like she is an after thought.
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Her sister by making snide comments about her wedding is saying she doesn't agree with the wedding which is another form of support
Not every fiancee wants to hear about every detail about the wedding and although talking to strangers on the internet is nicve to bounce ideas off of it is nice to have a live person whom you are close to, to actually do these things with.
so you're saying that if family is stressing you out you should x family off your list?