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Second wedding will be small - can't invite everyone! What to tell people?

trishabkirktrishabkirk
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Hi Everyone, 

We have chosen a small venue for our wedding (second wedding for both of us) - 45 people max. My first wedding had 140 guests - I am not going to be able to (nor do I want to) invite all of the same people, even all of the ones I am still in touch with.

What is a delicate way to announce/broach this subject to friends and distant family who won't be getting an invitation? Should I start telling them now? They will hear about the wedding plans through the grapevine now that we have a venue and date.

Thanks! All help is greatly appreciated! :) 
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Re: Second wedding will be small - can't invite everyone! What to tell people?

  • SCD1126SCD1126
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    In many cases I would think people will know this wedding may be smaller. (Mine is too - same situation as you). I don't plan on saying anything. Being vague about the date, stating that we're going to keep it small if anyone asks. And then I'm just going to let it happen quietly. People will know after the fact.

    I don't want any hurt feelings, but neither do we want a huge blow-out wedding and in the end, what we want wins out.
    Daisypath Wedding tickers
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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
    Ninth Anniversary 1000 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    You don't.  Just invite those you want, and if anyone has the nerve to ask if they are invited, and they are not, just vaguely shrug & say, "It's a second wedding, and we are keeping it very small.  Mostly family."  If they ARE family, make it immediate family.  If they don't ask, there's no need to say anything.  ~Donna
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  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
    1000 Comments Third Anniversary Name Dropper 5 Love Its
    The easiest way to stop the questions is state very simply that while it is a wedding, you found the perfect venue and unfortunately there isn't a lot of room for more guests. 
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  • trishabkirktrishabkirk
    10 Comments
    edited January 2013
    Sounds good, ladies. Agreed! thank you for your advice! :) 
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