Wedding pulls as BM Gifts?

AlmostMrsStrong · September 2010

I was looking online, and there are places like Mignon Faget that do a set of wedding pulls that are, essentially, pendent designs that they already have out. Would it be appropriate to give these as the BM gifts? Or should I just stick with some cheap pulls and buy each BM something?

For reference: http://www.mignonfaget.com/shop/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Product_Code=8772Y&Store_Code=mf&search=cake&offset=0&filter_cat=&PowerSearch_Begin_Only=&sort=&range_low=&range_high=

AlmostMrsStrong · September 2010

Also, are cake pulls done only by the bridesmaids, or can I also include close friends that I didn't have room for in the WP?

mkrupar · September 2010

I had to google cake pull because I had no idea what this was. It seems this is something that is done at the shower. I don't see why close friends couldn't be involved. Especially if you buy a set of 8 charms and only have 4 bridesmaid. I would however consider giving them a more personal gift closer to the wedding. I'm not a big charm person, and that would probably just end up in the bottom of the jewelry box. I say do the cake pull, but get them other gifts.

theta_bombshell · September 2010

I dont like it... but I dont really know what it is. But it seems kinda pointless. I would not want to get this as a gift. Wouldnt know what to do with it.

aerinpegadrak · September 2010

I wouldn't have the first idea what to do with something like that, so no, I wouldn't consider it a gift at all, unless all of your girls are really into charm bracelets or something.

AlmostMrsStrong · September 2010

Cake pulls are somewhat of a New Orleans tradition, I suppose. They are placed under the cake and then the girls gather around and pull one and each one has a different meaning (the rings mean that's the next one to get married, the pepper is for red hot romance, the button is for Old Maid, etc).

The pulls I posted aren't actually charms, they're pendents. After the pull, you can take them off the ribbon and put them on a silver chain to wear as a necklace.

trix1223 · September 2010

Actually, I had no idea what they were, and have never seen them at weddings, showers, or anywhere. After looking at your link, and reading your responses, I have to say sorry nms at all. And it's really not a WP gift if you let people who are not in the WP also get them, is it?

vsgal · September 2010

I would do the cake pulls if you want, however, you need to do something else more personal for their gifts.

ehathewa · September 2010

The cake pulls sounds like a fun tradition, but I do not think that I would have that be the gift... would you want to wear the "old maid" charm?

melissamc2 · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_wedding-pulls-bm-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:9837bf7c-fb08-4cc5-be40-c29aac105aa3Post:c0538255-c125-4aaf-81af-ec6461f92f9b">Re: Wedding pulls as BM Gifts?</a>:
[QUOTE]I would do the cake pulls if you want, however, you need to do something else more personal for their gifts.
Posted by vsgal[/QUOTE]

This is how I feel about it. If it's something that people know about in your group, then it sounds like it could be a fun time at the shower. No one around here would know anything about it, and, like others have said, I wouldn't consider it a "gift," just a shower door prize.

Kristin789 · September 2010

1. The Charm Cake is not done at a shower. It's done at the Bridesmaids' Tea or the Bridesmaid's Brunch, which is thrown by the bride and the MOB to thank the MOH and BMs.

2. Only the MOH and BMs are at the Bridesmaid's Tea. You don't invite a bunch of other girls you didn't ask to be BMs.

3. The charms you linked to are $400. No one does $400 charms, and even if you did, no one is going to wear them as pendants. You get the charms at Michaels for like $11.

http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/rehearsal-dinner/articles/bridesmaids-tea-basics.aspx

In traditional wedding circles, especially in the South, a popular feature of the bridesmaids' tea is the "charm cake." Symbolic charms (usually sterling silver) are tied to 12-inch-long ribbons (one for each maid); the ribbons are then arranged between the bottom tier of the cake and the cake plate, trailing out onto the table surface. At the tea, each bridesmaid pulls a ribbon and the charm she retrieves bears a special message. Examples: Horsehoe = good luck; Anchor = adventure awaits; Fleur-de-Lis = love will flower; Wedding Bells = next to marry; Ring = next to be engaged; Camera = fame and fortune; and on it goes.

mysticl · September 2010

I wouldn't consider that a gift. I would think of it more as a party favor. I would never wear it as a necklace, they aren't my style at all. You may have some bm who are resentful because you have basically given them a gift they need to spend money on to use because they have to go out and buy a chain for it (unless you plan on buying them chains too).

AlmostMrsStrong · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_wedding-pulls-bm-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:9837bf7c-fb08-4cc5-be40-c29aac105aa3Post:e8b6264b-754f-4306-ac29-819bbbd456a2">Re: Wedding pulls as BM Gifts?</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>1. The Charm Cake is not done at a shower. It's done at the Bridesmaids' Tea or the Bridesmaid's Brunch, which is thrown by the bride and the MOB to thank the MOH and BMs</strong>. 2. Only the MOH and BMs are at the Bridesmaid's Tea. You don't invite a bunch of other girls you didn't ask to be BMs. 3. The charms you linked to are $400. No one does $400 charms, and even if you did, no one is going to wear them as pendants. You get the charms at Michaels for like $11. <a href="http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/rehearsal-dinner/articles/bridesmaids-tea-basics.aspx" rel="nofollow">http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/rehearsal-dinner/articles/bridesmaids-tea-basics.aspx</a> In traditional wedding circles, especially in the South, a popular feature of the bridesmaids' tea is the "charm cake." Symbolic charms (usually sterling silver) are tied to 12-inch-long ribbons (one for each maid); the ribbons are then arranged between the bottom tier of the cake and the cake plate, trailing out onto the table surface. At the tea, each bridesmaid pulls a ribbon and the charm she retrieves bears a special message. Examples: Horsehoe = good luck; Anchor = adventure awaits; Fleur-de-Lis = love will flower; Wedding Bells = next to marry; Ring = next to be engaged; Camera = fame and fortune; and on it goes.
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

This might be true in most locales, but in New Orleans they are typically done at the wedding itself and it's all the single bridesmaids and close friends of the bride.

I think I'm just going to find basic sterling silver charms instead, or maybe post a question on the local board, since this seems to be more of a regional tradition.

I would be pretty stoked to receive a Mignon Faget pendant, but I can see how someone could get one that isn't their style and be upset.

lalap69 · September 2010

The BM gifts should be more personal to them than that. You can give them to them if you'd like, but you should also give them something that you think they'd actually want, something that you'd buy for them for another occassion that wasn't wedding-related.

whirlybird27 · November 2010

We are doing a charm pull at our reception. It will be all of the ladies who are in our wedding party(moh, reader, singer etc). I am using charms from James Avery and I have gotten ideas from my ladies of which ones they like and would wear etc. I am picking out each one SPECIFICALLY for each one of them. I hope they will have fun with it and enjoy getting another present.

That being said it is not their bm 'gift'. Each is getting something just for them. (it's all about knowing those who are standing up with you and what they would like) And when in doubt just ASK them

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