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I need some parenting advice

Not for now, but later in life.

How do you stop boys from getting all whiny and annoying when they are sick. DH does this and I call it "man sick" or "whiny b!tchitis". For example, DH has allergies. Right now they are bothering him and he has post-nasal drip. This irritates his throat and gives him a sore throat. He has has this once before, and he swore that he had strep throat. He ended up going to urgent care and being told he had allregies, they gave him a lidocaine gargle and told him to take Zyrtec.

So last night he's tossing and turning in bed. I hear all these noises of him spraying crap in his throat or sucking on cough drops. I'd like to be sympathetic but I've got to be up at 5 am. I also pushed a baby out of my vagina. Until the day I die, very little will illicit any sympathy from me about my husband's aches and pain in comparison to that.

But anyways, I cannot do this twice. I cannot have my son acting like this. When he gets older, I need him to not do this. Do I build a hut in my backyard and banish my husband to it when he gets "sick"? Please help, this is a true woe for me.

Re: I need some parenting advice

  • PMeg819PMeg819 member
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    edited December 2011

    I did this morning, then I was accused of being "mean", "not caring about his wellbeing", and "grouchy". All are sort of true, but it's a mothereffing SORE THROAT.

  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    At least he goes to the doctor. My H will end up dying of the common cold because he's just to busy and important to take an hour off work to see a doctor, or god forbid, rest long enough to actually get better.
  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011
    No advice.  DH would cut his hand off before seeing a doc.  He spent 12 hrs with chest pains before even mentioning it to me.  He comes home with some NASTY burns that he barely treats.
  • DG1DG1 member
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    edited December 2011

    Hmm. Mine just suffers in silence and drinks lots of airborne.

    Last night, after a particularly violent sneezing bout, he said to Dexter, "Dad's getting sick." 

    I had to say, "Or maybe it's just that Dad cut the grass yesterday."  (He's allergic, and the grass was a foot high.)

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  • *Barbie**Barbie* member
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    edited December 2011
    i tell him to stop being a pussy - I take care of him when he's legitimately sick, but he likes to while about the minor stuff, and hates going to the Dr. 

    Do what I did with nephew, who is 2.5. Kid was running around like an idiot, and wrestling with a toy bear on the floor. Kept running and jumping/tackling bear. eventually he smacked his head off the floor. The floor was carpeted, and he was not in the least bit injured. He looked at me all teary eyed, and was getting ready to start crying and i told him to cut it out, he's fine - big boys don't cry. I think he was surprised that I didn't coddle him for the next 20 minutes and put bandaids on his "boo-boo" like SIL would have done. Just don't make a big deal out of medical issues unless they require it - i.e. a doctor visit/ER trip. 
  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    Bacon does this. I tell her to man up, I refuse to listen to it. It works about 60% of the time; she's getting better as she gets older. 

    Mostly, she does this with injuries, though. Actual sickness just makes her tired, so we plop her in front of the TV and let her sleep. 
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  • zsazsa-stlzsazsa-stl member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh good grief, I wish I knew.  But I think my H's mansick issues come from having parents that didn't pay a whole lot of attention to him except for when he was sick.  So know he has to let me know about every ache and twitch because he is conditioned to be pampered. 

    If I were you I would make sure that your kid gets plenty of unsolicited affection.
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  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    edited December 2011
    DH doesn't get too whiney when he's sick. He usually just sleeps on the couch. He rarely misses work because of it.


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