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• right1thistime member

  

  March 2012

  My first was 220 people, I have a HUGE family, and gave into the "if you invite X, you must invite his sisters Y &Z and brother J" and "if you invite aunt F, you can't avoid inviting aunt H who you couldn't pick out of a lineup."   My xH invited family I had never met, and I got the list from his sister, who misspelled peoples' names (Preston for Ralston) so I sent out misspelled invitations.  DH's first wedding was about 100.
  
  I did not cave in to that mentality this time.  We invited 80 and 70 came.  We were much happier with this size event.  The difference was that we invited only the people we love & who love us.  That meant of 40 first cousins, I invited ONE.  No aunts of mine, and close friends instead of distant family.  We were inclusive with co-workers, as that is a bit stickier.  ~Donna

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• MerryNMath member

  

  March 2012

  We invited 160 ish so as not to offend the immediate first cousins... figured the ones that love us will come, the ones that don't wont... we were right     Looking about about 120 (I hope) for the final count...   I'd have been content with smaller - only because we're older and hopefully more wise when it comes to spending...  however, my love said to me - why should it be less of a celebration if we both finally have it right?  What do you say to that??        Do it how the 2 of you want it... it's still YOUR day...

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• MikesAngie member

  

  March 2012

  I agree with Lisa - have the size of celebration that you want - don't scale back because someone might have an issue.  It's your (collective) special day celebrate it how you want!

  
  

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• Lisa50 member

  

  March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_number-of-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:5a5aeedd-5037-4544-9f08-c73ad90ed70ePost:68710452-4c03-4fef-b1c6-a4628d55c9cb">Re: Number of guests ....</a>:
  [QUOTE]My first was 220 people, I have a HUGE family, and gave into the "if you invite X, you must invite his sisters Y &Z and brother J" and "if you invite aunt F, you can't avoid inviting aunt H who you couldn't pick out of a lineup."   My xH invited family I had never met, and I got the list from his sister, who misspelled peoples' names (Preston for Ralston) so I sent out misspelled invitations.  DH's first wedding was about 100. I did not cave in to that mentality this time.  We invited 80 and 70 came.  We were much happier with this size event.  The difference was that we invited only the people we love & who love us.  That meant of 40 first cousins, I invited ONE.  No aunts of mine, and close friends instead of distant family.  We were inclusive with co-workers, as that is a bit stickier.  ~Donna
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  Oh yeah, I do tend to forget that sometimes, first timers invite people they don't want to have in attendance. I invited who I wanted the first time and again, the second time.  I guess I have tired of those who want to pidgeon-hole second (or third) timers into a celebration with just a few guests.

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• 2dBride member

  

  March 2012 edited March 2012

  The only reason we had a tiny guest list for what was my second wedding and my wife's first was that as a same-sex couple, at the time we had to get married in Massachusetts on a Tuesday.  However, we had an at-home reception for 60 people back in DC three days later.  And unlike my first wedding, at which pretty much all the guests were members of our extended families that we "had to" invite, the guests at our at-home reception were all friends we wanted to have celebrate with us.

  
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