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hostess shower gift etiquette

Hi all - 

I'm trying to figure out what to get the ladies hosting my shower for hostess gifts. One thing I'm wondering about - my shower is being hosted by my bridal party and my mom which includes my future sister-in-law. It does not include my FMIL but she will be there. Does that mean I should get her a gift as well even though she's not part of the hosting?
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Re: hostess shower gift etiquette

  • I don't think you need to get your FMIL a gift. It's a hostess gift. She's not a hostess.

    I wrote my hostess a heartfelt note. I also gave her a bottle of wine and a bunch of her favorite bath products.
  • I'm such a heifer. I never even thought about hostess gifts. I just wrote them a TY note.
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  • I had two showers.  The one my mom's friend hosted, I got her a beautiful flower arrangement.  The one my MIL hosted I got her an edible arrangement.  
  • You do not need to get your FMIL a gift if she is not hosting.

    I think it's really sweet that you want to give your hostesses gifts.  I like the idea of writing them each a heartfelt note and getting them wine or a gift card that you know they will enjoy.
  • Thank you so much ladies. I think I'll probably do the heartfelt note and a bottle of wine!
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  • Flowers or a nice flowering plant is usually my go to for that sort of thing...with a nice thank you note, of course!
  • If she's not a hostess, then no, you don't need to get her a gift that's meant for the hostesses.
  • For my sister-in-law's shower, which was hosted by a family friend, my mother and I bought the hostess gifts.  However, my SIL did send thank you notes.
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