Wedding night hotel, to stay or not to stay

mfondin · November 2011

We are getting married in two weeks This is a second marriage for both of us and I have 3 kids and he has 2. (I know you're think, well, good luck for that.) But here's the thing. We aren't doing a honeymoon (due to finances and time off work) but I really want to at least have the first night together away from the peeps and a tranquil morning together at a hotel. My fiancé doesn't see it this way. He says, "We'll arrive late after the wedding, be exhaused and only have breakfast together." He thinks it's silly to stay at a hotel. I think it's necessary to have some down time, even a night and morning before beginning with everyone together. Am I crazy? Advice please!!!!
The crushed romantic bride.

DG1 · November 2011

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[QUOTE]We are getting married in two weeks This is a second marriage for both of us and I have 3 kids and he has 2. (I know you're think, well, good luck for that.) But here's the thing. We aren't doing a honeymoon (due to finances and time off work) but I really want to at least have the first night together away from the peeps and a tranquil morning together at a hotel. My fiancé doesn't see it this way. He says, "We'll arrive late after the wedding, be exhaused and only have breakfast together." He thinks it's silly to stay at a hotel. I think it's necessary to have some down time, even a night and morning before beginning with everyone together. Am I crazy? Advice please!!!! The crushed romantic bride.
Posted by mfondin[/QUOTE]

If you don't stay at the hotel, where would you stay? Back at your house with your 5 kids?

mfondin · November 2011

Yes, back at home with the 5 kids, one sister, one mother, two cats etc........That's why I'm screaming inside: Please let this one night be special for us.

vexie · November 2011

Get the room and pay extra for a late checkout time ... or... better yet, why not stay an extra night and make it a mini-moon? Second time around or not, it's still important for the two of you to celebrate the start of your new marriage alone together

DG1 · November 2011

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[QUOTE]Yes, back at home with the 5 kids, one sister, one mother, two cats etc........That's why I'm screaming inside: Please let this one night be special for us.
Posted by mfondin[/QUOTE]

Then yes. Unless money is a huge factor, I think he should indulge your wish for a special wedding night alone. I don't think I'd spring for the honeymoon suite, but a standard king room so you can have some peace and quiet? That seems pretty reasonable.

TripleJTobe · November 2011

I'd def. stay at the hotel..it's your wedding night! It should be special

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CassieeK · November 2011

I'm with you. Even if you just enjoy the hotel for the peace and quiet, it would be worth it to me!

zsazsa-stl · November 2011

Yes, I would be staying at a hotel even if finances didn't allow anything for than a $39.99 room at the truck stop. You need at least one night! And if finances are an issue and you aren't picky about location, go to a blind site like hotwire or topsecrethotels. I've stayed in some very nice places for less than $60/night just because there were no conventions in town and inventory was high.