My wedding is still quite a ways away, so in my opinion, there's no reason to be talking about the wedding party at all. BUT, that doesn't stop people from asking who's going to be in it. With adults, I just say, "Oh, we haven't talked about that yet." But when it's a young niece...
I have three nieces, all teenagers. I was not planning on asking them to be in my wedding party, for numerous and very firm reasons. (They really are firm reasons, involving all kinds of family dynamics, not worth getting into here. Suffice to say, though, that love them though I do, it's my choice not to ask them.) One of those nieces, though, aged 15, has already started asking, mostly through her mother. What's the best way to handle this? I don't want her feelings to be hurt, of course, but I'm not changing my decision just to avoid an awkward conversation. Thoughts?