A few Q's before I say my "I Do's"

Re: A few Q's before I say my "I Do's"

• MrsHaH101010

  

  March 2010

  If you are having the ceremony and the reception on the same day I would think it would be a little strange not to be invited to both.  I had this same problem and my FI and I decided to have a DW in Grand Cayman with only 25 people and then a few weeks later we are having what we call our party in Toronto where my FI is from.  The party will have about 150 people.
  
  I don't think it woul be strange to wear your e-ring on your right hand and your wedding band on your left.  Either that or just don't get a band.

  Heather and Tom 10.10.10

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• tenofcups4me member

  

  March 2010

  I know people talk about the intimate ceremony and large reception, but I think  it's weird. To me, the ceremony is the point of the day, the receptio is just the party. If you don't care enough about me to want me at the ceremony, I'm  not sure that I care enough about you to want to go to your party.
  
  Re the ring, I know many people who wear their wedding band on their left hand and engagement ring on their right. I did that when I was married the first time. Both had lots of diamonds :-) and they didn't work together on one finger.

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  March 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_qs-before-say-dos?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:75509690-d476-4905-92b2-8a593c9d27b8Post:68cfc4db-7273-4b74-8377-dda033ca7a4b">Re: A few Q's before I say my "I Do's"</a>:
  [QUOTE]I know people talk about the intimate ceremony and large reception, but I think  it's weird. To me, the ceremony is the point of the day, the receptio is just the party. If you don't care enough about me to want me at the ceremony, I'm  not sure that I care enough about you to want to go to your party.
  Posted by tenofcups4me[/QUOTE]
  once again, i agree with you 100%.
  
  
  [QUOTE]I'm doing the big reception later only because we're having a very small destination wedding. I think it's fine.
  Posted by Codi-Bailey[/QUOTE]
  of course you do.

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• cabilb01

  

  March 2010

  Have you looked into having a jeweler custom make a wedding band that compliments your e-ring? I have also known some ppl to have the e-ring made into a necklace that complimented their wedding ring, mine came as a set so they will be worn together.

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• squirrly member

  

  March 2010

  Technically, it is acceptable to have a tiny cermony and large reception, but having been invited to several - I hate it.  It seems like I wasn't good enough to actually see you get married, but I'm good enough to bring a gift and be essentially ignored by you at the reception because you're busy greeting all 200 guests.  I can not fathom why people do this.  If you like me enough to feed and water me, why not let me see you get married?  I just want to watch, after all. 
  
  As for how to wear your e-ring - any way you want, any hand.  Totally up to you.  Though, it's certainly not the majority of women who wear it on their right hand, so you may get some questions about it.  My mom wears an anniversary band on her left hand and an antique family ring on her right hand which happens to have a nice diamond in it - people sometimes stare strangely. 
  

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• Kristin789 member

  

  March 2010

  Totally agree with Tenofcups and Squirrly:  These days, people just don't go to those big receptions if they aren't invited to the ceremony.  The ceremony is the reason for the event(s), after all.  I know people who won't even send a gift, because they call the big reception a "gift collection event."
  
  RING:  You could buy a band for the left hand and wear your e-ring on your right.  But why wouldn't you get a band that goes with the e-ring on the same finger?  I'm not talking about soldering the two rings together - because sometimes I just want to wear the band (gardening and some cooking projects) and it's convenient to remove just the e-ring but leave the band on.

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