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• Irishcurls member

  

  January 2012

  I'm sorry you're dealing with that! Seems like a bit of a weird situation but my only thought is that it's temporary--I assume your FI has made it clear that they are moving out in 4 months? And you're LD right? So at least you don't have to see them that often. She made her immature decision to block you, but that may be for the best! Try to continue acting as the adult and just move on. But make sure your FI knows you tried, and you do not want to devote any more time to creating a relationship with these people. Between school, work, and wedding stuff, I'm sure your plate is full enough. 

  

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• amh04

  

  January 2012

  I'm sorry you're having to deal with this and that she isn't being mature about it all. I think its really important to remember this will be hopefully behind you soon. It is a really awkward situation from what you've said. Hopefully you all can get what you want out of the house and you all can just put this behind you. We'll just have a great excuse to have lots of wine during your next trip! But in all seriousness I'm really sorry, that's a sticky situation and she's making it even harder on both ends.

  

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• SamiJoeB

  

  January 2012

  Not to take her side or anything.. but she's 19.  How mature can you really expect her to be? (No offense to anyone who is 19) Not to be weird or anything.. but maybe she had a crush on your FI?  I mean.. Don't get me wrong, she sounds like a total brat and she needs to realize that its your FI's house. He owns it no?  She needs to respect that, and she needs to respect your FI, and you as well.  I can kind of understand if like you came in there guns blazing acting like You own the place that she might feel a little annoyed and put out.  Bottom line though, she needs to respect your FI first and foremost.. and you as well.  Sorry if that doesn't make a whole lot of sense.  I'm not trying to play devil's advocate, but I always kind of feel like there's two sides to every story.  I agree with Irish though, it's probably for the best that she blocked you..

  

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• Danidawn20

  

  January 2012

  Fire- I'm sorry you have to deal with this.  I think, as long as this is a temopary situtation, everything should end up working out. 

  If not, then, I think Fi and you need to talk to the famikly together about how she is treating people.

  

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• calindi member

  

  January 2012

  It sounds like she's probably got a few issues.  Her Dad being divorced twice probably makes her concept of "family" a bit flexible, and it sounds like your FI's house is probably a stable place for her and thus your FI represents that stability to her that she has most likely lacked.  If she perceives you as a threat to that stability, she's obviously not going to like you.
  
  It sounds like your FI wants you to get along with her, and sending FB messages rarely (if ever) solves a problem.  I would talk to her face-to-face the next time you're over - treat her like an adult and invite her to grab a cup of coffee or something.  Try to remember she's just a kid and she probably views you as a threat (whether she has a crush on your FI or just an emotional attachment). 
  
  The more things boil into drama, the less likely I am to communicate online with someone (especially teenagers).  It only seems to make things worse, and meanings can be twisted around.
  
  Good luck!  At the least, it's temporary.

  
  
  
  
  
  

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