ADVISE FOR A STICKY SITUATION

stoledo · June 2010

Hello everyone!

I need some advice regarding my situation. My fiancé and I have set our wedding for August 2011. We are both excited for our BIG EVENT. However, we have been saving and set aside an account for our Wedding. I even thought of fundraising events (However, upon researching this is a tacky situation). I have been researching about weddings whole heartedly.

The wedding is a year away, but I am stressing over it. I want this to be a special event for the both of us. I get emotional as I write this because I lost my mother when I was nine years old. I do not know who my father is. I have one sibling that is deceased, and one that is still alive (with no contact). So I have no immediate family to help me. I have turned to my cousins, aunt and uncle to help me with my wedding, They seem excited, but I think I we will still plan the wedding on our own with my fiance help and his family.

My life has been full of abnormal dysfunction till the time I meant my fiancé. He has been the only one with PATIENCE and COMPASSIONATE LOVE FOR ME. He stands with me on what my decisions are for the wedding. All I am asking for is enough money for our wedding, expenses and reception to share this experience with my family and friends. If I was asked for ONE WISH this would be my wish is to only have the wedding I want. I know that I was taught to go after my dreams and goals. So do you think have fundraising events, donations etc is tacky along with the money I have been saving??

Please help me or refer me to someone that will help me. I know that I will get judge about my posting. However, all comments will be used to help me with my wedding.

ExpatPumpkin · June 2010

I understand that you want to have a beautiful wedding, and you should! But holding fundraisers, etc. really isn't the way to go. Plenty of couples pay for their own weddings regardless of their family situation.

And besides, your family knows your situation better than anyone... So if they feel the need to contribute financially, I'm sure they will offer. If they don't, you'll have to be at peace with paying for it on your own.

I'm sure that you want your guests to have wonderful memories of how lovely and meaningful your wedding was. But if you have your hand out in the year/months leading up to the event, that's really all they're going to remember

The good news is that you have over a year to plan and save up for the wedding. One piece of advice that I have for you would be to keep the guest list reasonable (50-75). When you're dealing with a smaller group, you can host a lovely reception in the private dining room of a restaurant. This will save you tons of money. And you can focus on the really important stuff (food and drinks) rather than rentals, extra decor, etc.

Good luck

carrieandpearl · June 2010

My Fiancée and I are paying for our wedding ourselves. My parents don't have cash to help out and money from his family comes with strings so no thanks. We are doing the whole thing for 5,000. Renting an Elks lodge, which my parents are members so we get it for cheaper (nonmember price is only 250/hour which in my area seattle is dirt cheap) I found a cater on Craigslist, military wife that does catering as a side job while husband is away she came with references from other states she has catered in, and food tasting was awesome! Super simple flowers, and only 70 people invited. (only 45 will most likely come)

Remember it's about the two of you and the rest of your lives. In 20 years how much you spent won’t be as important as starting your lives together.

Good luck in your journey! He sounds like a keeper from the patience’s and companionate love he has

AdeleDazeem · June 2010

I don't mean this to be harsh, just a reality check: you should plan the wedding that you can afford.

I know a lot of people "dream" about what their wedding will look like and be like, but when the times rolls around to actually implement this plan, it's the money factor that often times blurs the vision.

My fiance and I always wanted to get married in the carribbean. When we got engaged and saw the prices, I basically had a meltdown. After that, we sat down, crunched some numbers, worked out a savings plan, and are having the wedding we want within the budget we set.

That's the first goal here: set a budget. Set it with money that you know you can save between now and then and *without* asking anyone for any help. Then go about setting up the wedding within the budget you set. Use this website - there is a whole board dedicated to budgeting and those girls have some amazing ideas.

A beautiful wedding can happen with any budget. Please remember that you don't need a zillion dollars. And at the end of the day, you will be married, which is the most important thing. Don't lose sight of that!

Good luck!

tidetravel · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Hello everyone! I need some advice regarding my situation. My fiancé and I have set our wedding for August 2011. We are both excited for our BIG EVENT. However, we have been saving and set aside an account for our Wedding. I even thought of fundraising events (However, upon researching this is a tacky situation). I have been researching about weddings whole heartedly. The wedding is a year away, but I am stressing over it. I want this to be a special event for the both of us. I get emotional as I write this because I lost my mother when I was nine years old. I do not know who my father is. I have one sibling that is deceased, and one that is still alive (with no contact). So I have no immediate family to help me. I have turned to my cousins, aunt and uncle to help me with my wedding, They seem excited, but I think I we will still plan the wedding on our own with my fiance help and his family. My life has been full of abnormal dysfunction till the time I meant my fiancé. He has been the only one with PATIENCE and COMPASSIONATE LOVE FOR ME. He stands with me on what my decisions are for the wedding. All I am asking for is enough money for our wedding, expenses and reception to share this experience with my family and friends. If I was asked for ONE WISH this would be my wish is to only have the wedding I want. I know that I was taught to go after my dreams and goals. So do you think have fundraising events, donations etc is tacky along with the money I have been saving?? Please help me or refer me to someone that will help me. I know that I will get judge about my posting. However, all comments will be used to help me with my wedding.
Posted by stoledo[/QUOTE]

If your research said that it's tacky, then it is. Your special circumstances do not negate that. Many of us had "dream weddings" in mind before we started planning. However, we realized that the dream had to be modified or scaled back to fit within our budget. If you are on a budget, one thing that you can do is to each pick one element of your dream wedding and splurge a little bit on that; this means, of course, that you'll have to be flexible with the rest. For me, it was the venue: I wanted something rustic. For FI, it was kilts for the wedding party.

Plan the wedding that you want and can afford. These boards are a great resourse to help in your planning. Start scouring bios for ideas, and check out the budget brides board for money saving ideas.

SarahPLiz · June 2010

I am very sorry that you have a crappy family situation, but fundraising for your wedding is always ill-advised and greedy. If your families want to help, they will do it without you guilting them into it with a fundraiser. If you were planning on fundraising from people outside your guest list, then that is even more tacky, since they aren't even invited to witness your nuptials and party afterwards. That's just plain greedy.

Always plan an affair that you can afford. You have time to save money, and can make small purchases along the way to spread them out some. Hang out on the Budget Weddings and Wedding Classifieds boards here, and Trash to Treasure on The Nest, and you will get wonderful ideas and deals on wedding related purchases.

You can have a beautiful wedding without spending a ton of money, I promise.

Oh, and even though you didn't mention it, please don't even entertain the idea of taking out a loan for your wedding. It is a horrible idea to begin your marriage in debt.

Another bit of unsolicited advice: When posting on these forums, please don't use colored font. It is very juvenile and hard to read and leads readers to not take you seriously.

psuxray07 · June 2010

When we first got engaged, I also started stressing about the money. (got engaged Dec '09, getting married Dec '10). We got some help from family, but we are basically paying for like 90% of it, and my FI is laid off. I looked up fundraising but the only way I could find to do that is if you belonged to some group and it was going to some charity or something...unless you made stuff and did it on your own. But then I felt kinda weird about doing that.

We're doing stuff like any change, money left over we put it in a jar. I'll try to take a little out each paycheck and put it in there. Also, pretty much everyone we know is saving cans for us (we're saving them too) and giving them to us so we can take them in for money....now it's hard to get a lot of $$ for it, but it helps with smaller things like favors, etc...

Still, all this leaves a major portion of money due before the wedding that we cannot come up with. Yesterday, we went and got a loan, which took A HUGE LOAD off both our minds. We'll do what we can to get it paid off asap, but the thing about it is we can make payments AFTER the wedding, not have everything due at once...that's just IMPOSSIBLE for us.

But I definitely know how you feel getting stressed about it! lol It was instant for me.

GeeGirl619 · June 2010

There are SO many ways to save $ on a wedding.

With a whole year to plan, you have plenty of time for many DIY projects.
I had never done a single craft before my wedding, but I learned a few simple & easy projects were fun and saved me a ton of cash.

I would recommend looking on the Budget & DIY boards for inspiration. Also, sitting down with your FI & creating a budget and coming up with a savings plan is GREAT practice for married life.

Please, please, please do NOT hold a fundraising event. It truly is tasteless & rude. Have the wedding you can afford & you'll be so proud of yourself & FI for having done it.

SarahPLiz · June 2010

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[QUOTE]When we first got engaged, I also started stressing about the money. (got engaged Dec '09, getting married Dec '10). We got some help from family, but we are basically paying for like 90% of it, and my FI is laid off. I looked up fundraising but the only way I could find to do that is if you belonged to some group and it was going to some charity or something...unless you made stuff and did it on your own. But then I felt kinda weird about doing that. We're doing stuff like any change, money left over we put it in a jar. I'll try to take a little out each paycheck and put it in there. Also, pretty much everyone we know is saving cans for us (we're saving them too) and giving them to us so we can take them in for money....now it's hard to get a lot of $$ for it, but it helps with smaller things like favors, etc... Still, all this leaves a major portion of money due before the wedding that we cannot come up with. Yesterday, we went and got a loan, which took A HUGE LOAD off both our minds. We'll do what we can to get it paid off asap, but the thing about it is we can make payments AFTER the wedding, not have everything due at once...that's just IMPOSSIBLE for us. But I definitely know how you feel getting stressed about it! lol It was instant for me.
Posted by psuxray07[/QUOTE]

This is really bad advice, especially with your FIs unclear job situation. What if he doesn't get a new job and you can't make the payments? That's going to be a lot of stress on your relationship. Even though you have signed contracts, it is often possible to reduce the amount of the contract through negotiation. Taking out a loan to throw a party is just not a financially sound decision. THere are ways to cut back on the party itself (like not having favors- huge waste of money), monkeying with the menu, reducing the guest list, etc. I imagine that money is a stressor right now if he is unemployed.. why add to the debt and create another stressor?

Unsolicited advice for you: I suggest you read a book like Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover before you continue to make unsound financial decisions, ruining your credit, making it near impossible to get out of debt, and placing unneeded stress on your marriage. It is very possible to live without debt and save for things you want, but you have to be disciplined and willing to sacrifice, which you obviously are not ready to do yet.

quotequeen · June 2010

You can "fundraise" by holding a yard sale (that has nothing to do with your wedding), selling things on ebay/craigslist/etsy, getting part time second jobs, babysitting, mowing lawns, etc. - the same things you would do if you were trying to save for any other goal in your life. You cannot fundraise by holding parties where people buy tickets to fund your wedding or by asking your friends and family to pay for things for you - these are horribly rude.

Midgetth · June 2010

My FI and I are getting married this October and paying it for ourselves. We got engaged two Aprils ago & wanted to get married last October. We didn't because we couldn't afford it. We set a savings where the bank automatically transferred $20 from our checking into our savings every other week. We sold alot of our things (things we didn't really use or need) and just saving any extra money we had. We have not gone out for dinner or any activity in almost a year. We really cut back on our luxury things. My FIonly makes $20,000 a year and by us saving for a year we have $7,000 saved p & that's more than what we need for our wedding. You need to think realistcly of what you & your FI can afford and if you wantsomething better than put your wedding off & give up some luxury items. Have yard sales etc. It is not ok to do fundraising. Why should anyone else pay for your wedding? I'm sorry your family situation isn't the best but most people'sfamily situation isn't. You do what YOU can.

psuxray07 · June 2010

Sorry, but our decision was right for us. It's a small loan, it's in MY name and I can afford it.

We've been living together for years and have not had any problems with affording what we have, even with him on unemployment, which is hopefully soon about to end, he just received a job offer last week.

My credit score is awesome, we always get compliments from people (including lendors, etc) on how well we are doing for our ages.

The favors aren't really expensive for us...and our guest list is already small...only about 60-70 people, so it's not that bad.

We're handling it fine...

megk8oz · June 2010

If in your own research, you've managed to discover that fund raising for your own wedding is tacky ... then you already know that what you want to do is tacky.

Everybody has a story that could break your heart. That doesn't mean that they're automatically entitled to submit to tacky behavior to essentially throw a party. I've gone through my own personal sorrows in life, and I still had to foot the bill for my wedding. DH and I don't make a lot of money, but we busted our butts to scrimp and save and made compromises to have the closest thing to a "dream" wedding that we could afford. Yes, I did not get to get married at my first choice venue, and sure, it would have been nicer to have more money for certain things we skipped out on ... but dammit, my wedding was fun, and at the end of the day, I was married to my "dream" man and that, to me, made it my dream wedding.

It sucks that you've encountered tragedy in your life, and I geniunely feel sorry for what you've gone through ... and am very happy that you've found a man that can stand by you and emotionally support you in your time of need. And that's really what's important when it comes to getting married: not the fancy aisle, but the person waiting for you at the end of it.

Have the wedding you can afford, don't be tacky.

M1ssJ · June 2010

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[QUOTE]You can "fundraise" by holding a yard sale (that has nothing to do with your wedding), selling things on ebay/craigslist/etsy, getting part time second jobs, babysitting, mowing lawns, etc. - the same things you would do if you were trying to save for any other goal in your life. You cannot fundraise by holding parties where people buy tickets to fund your wedding or by asking your friends and family to pay for things for you - these are horribly rude.
Posted by quotequeen[/QUOTE]

I agree with this post. I think fundraisers thatou can DO NOT involve pledgs from your family and friends are ok. Yard sales, maybe starting a weekend carwash,or some other side hustle but other than that. Everyone is right, your siuation is unpleasant and my heart goes out to you but a small wedding is fine. You can always do a large vow renewal when you have the money. Best of luck.

aerinpegadrak · June 2010

We actually proceeded with planning on our "dream" wedding, until we discovered that we weren't going to get the discount we'd been planning on, and we could no longer afford it. It sucked hardcore and I definitely cried over it, but in the end we cut our guest list from 175 to 50, moved the wedding from Yosemite to Las Vegas, and started saving every spare penny we had. And you know what? We had a kickass wedding, and I wouldn't have changed a thing.

It's fine to dream big, but you have to deal with reality. You can't wish money into existence.

(And for the record, I didn't actually read a word of your post. Colored fonts suck.)

trix1223 · June 2010

I'm sorry you've had trouble in your past. It's a shame. But it doesn't make you any more deserving of a lovely wedding than someone who hasn't had your life experience.

If by fundraising, you mean that you're going to ask people to pay for your party, then that's so completely wrong and would be offensive. If you mean, you're going to get a second part-time job, then great.

Your wedding will be beautiful and meaningful because you're marrying a person that you're willing to commit your life to. The dress, veil, tuxedos, flowers, music, dance, limos, WP, food, bar, honeymoon, favors, invitations, showers, b-parties, e-parties, have NOTHING to do with a wonderful wedding and strong marriage.

Please, keep what the meaning of this really is. It's promising to share your life with someone. That's all. And you can do that for under $100.

When my children were small, we used to have the "Do I WANT it or do I NEED it" discussion with them when we were in stores. It taught them a lot about what really mattered to them and what didn't.

When they were HS age, they all had jobs. When it came to the prom, they paid for their own expenses. Suddenly, they were realizing how many trays they had to carry at their job to pay for a pro manicure, or a certain dress. So they carefully evaluated their spending for this 5 hour party.

And you know what? They had a simply wonderful time at their prom. I don't thing the people who spent their mommy and daddy's money had a better time than our kids did.

Ask yourself: do I WANT this, or do I NEED this? It's a question of immaturity vs. maturity.

Immaturity=I WANT this so I'm going to buy it, even though I can't really afford it now. Maturity=I WANT this but I can't afford it, so I'll wait and spend my money on what I NEED, even though those things aren't quite so snazzy.

And ditto pp: please don't use purple font. It's annoying. Good luck.

AdeleDazeem · June 2010

Oh my god.

Who answered that poll with a yes?

Seriously - you should be ashamed.

psuxray07 · June 2010

I think I did by accident, lol. Make that 2 yes' and 36 no's

MairePoppy · June 2010

Most brides have dreams that are larger than the budgets. You have to figure out what you can afford and prioritize. Stop watching Platinum Weddings. That's not what real life is for most of us.

qtxvixen · June 2010

Basically, I agree with a lot of what the other people are saying, only because I know what it's like to plan a wedding on a tight budget..you have a year to plan this wedding so start making a budget..you have to face facts..I know you want your "dream" wedding but if you can't afford it, than maybe wait another year...if having a dream wedidng means a lot to you, making it lavish and so on..then wait another year to save up money so you can have it...it really depends on you and what you're willing to go through for this dream wedding you want...if you have to cut out luxuries right now..then that's what you have to do..there's always an extreme measure on how far you're willing to go to achieve your goal..Cut out some luxuries now so you can save more..see what your spedning each month and cut out whatever that can be cut out..make some changes first..

it's a bad idea to throw a fundraiser for a wedding that you can't afford..you have to be logical..you have to make the changes first within yourself...it would seem that you're going to have to do a lot of this wedding preparations yourself...so check the budget forums...check the DIY forums..you'll get a lot of helpful tips from them...if you want it...go get it..you're gonna have to work for it..work every angle in getting to where you need to be...good luck to ya! best wishes!

AdeleDazeem · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I think I did by accident, lol. Make that 2 yes' and 36 no's
Posted by psuxray07[/QUOTE]

Ha - okay!

jenn.daniel · June 2010

Using a pink font makes you seem immature.

Fundraisers are not appropriate for weddings. You said you've been saving. Good for you! How much have you saved? Subtract 6 months living expenses. What's left is what you can spend on the wedding. How much can you save in 14 months? Add that. This is your budget. Please stick to it.

If you want a bigger budget, get a second job, cancel your cable, etc. Do not take out a loan, as previously mentioned.

marinabreeze · June 2010

It doesn't matter what the circumstances of your past are. It doesn't give you license to forego tackiness and fundraise (i.e. beg for donations) for what is essentially a big party to celebrate you and your FI's marriage.

I don't want to sound like a jerk (but I know I'm going to), but life is not fair, and no one owes anyone else anything. While your past is sad, it's not unique, and there are a number of other people with broken family situations, dysfunction, and tragedy in their pasts. You are blessed to meet your FI, from what it sounds like. Your wedding should be about starting your life together and looking towards the future, not having a "dream" wedding you can't afford to make up for a difficult past.

That said, it doesn't mean you have to have a crappy wedding, just make the most out of less. Check out the budget boards and other similar websites that cater to people planning a wedding on a budget. Sell things you don't need on eBay (which I do regularly if I'm in a tight spot financially), cut down on luxuries like eating out and cable/satellite TV, DIY stuff, shop online or shop sales at places like Michael's.

Take advantage of any connections you might already have: Do you belong to a house of worship? Are you a member of any community groups or organizations? Are you an alum of a college or university? Maybe these connections can yield you an inexpensive venue for ceremony or reception. Or alternately, check out public parks to see if that might be a more affordable option.

Do you know anyone who is in a relevant business (like catering, bakery, photography, DJing)...maybe you can work out something to where you can barter services with them or work out a deal. Maybe instead of hitting up your relatives for cash, maybe you can ask them for leads on vendors they know.

Maybe on dresses...check out Craiglist or local high-end consignment shops. Or, you might even want to order a formal or elegant bridesmaid's dress in white, then have a seamstress alter it or dress it up (do you have an aunt or family friend who sews? That might help.).

My point is this...you are not the only person putting together a wedding on a budget. I don't know what your dream wedding looks like, but it seems that it's beyond your affordability. You must adjust to that reality rather than expecting for others to subsidize your wedding. Manage your expectations and don't let the bridal magazines or wedding tv shows dictate what you need and want for the wedding. At the end of the day, it's about you and your FI pledging to live the rest of your lives together...nothing else.

redheadfsu · June 2010

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[QUOTE]You can "fundraise" by holding a yard sale (that has nothing to do with your wedding), selling things on ebay/craigslist/etsy, getting part time second jobs, babysitting, mowing lawns, etc. - the same things you would do if you were trying to save for any other goal in your life. You cannot fundraise by holding parties where people buy tickets to fund your wedding or by asking your friends and family to pay for things for you - these are horribly rude.
Posted by quotequeen[/QUOTE]

This.

Just please don't beg for money for a party that isn't necessary. Remember you can always get married at the courthouse. Parties are nice, but fundraise for a party? Really?

Simply Fated · June 2010

I understand that you want your dream wedding, but if you can't afford it, then you can't afford it. A lot of women are struggling financially, you are not alone.
Everyone has a heartbreaking tale, so there really are no exceptions, otherwise everyone would be an exception.

There are so many important things that are okay to hold a fundraiser for. Cancer treatment. Heart transplant. Diapers for a newborn. Poverty. But you are not impoverished. And if you were, you should be asking for money to feed yourself and shelter. Not an unnecessary party. Your situation isn't dire and therefore it is not okay to ask for money for something like this.

As someone suggested, hold a yard sale or sell stuff on ebay or craigs list to raise money. But to hold a fundraiser so you can have a party... and invite guests who are, in effect, paying for themselves and (ideally) bringing you more money and other gifts, it just, well, tacky. But I shouldn't have to tell you that, since you discovered that on your own.

Jennasourus · June 2010

there are a lot of posts on here and i dont know if it was suggested to you yet, but why not wait two years? Then whatever you can manager to save, you can then save double. I always had a vision of my "Dream wedding" too. and now that we are actually planning i realized that this stuff is super expensive. Were gonna wait two years to save up. Also, there are going to be places you have to cut corners. I think that unless you are rich no one is gonna get there %100 percent dream wedding. As long as you have your dream man thats all that matters... the rest can be changed.

qtxvixen · June 2010

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[QUOTE]As long as you have your dream man thats all that matters... the rest can be changed.
Posted by Jennasourus[/QUOTE]
Amen!

HisCB · June 2010

i didnt read all of the replies, but my opinion is that you should have the wedding you can afford without causing financial strain on your relationship.

there are non-tacky ways to "raise funds"

have yard sale with free items you collect on freecycle and craigslist. (i know a couple who funded their russian adoption by doing this amongst other things)
get an extra part time job
barter your services for wedding services (i baby sat for 5 days for our photographer)

it seems to me that you dont have the best financial situation to begin with, saving money on your 1 day will give you money for many days of your marriage.

change your dreams to what you can afford. your wedding will be beautiful as long as you and your fi say vows and kiss.

stoledo · June 2010

Thanks for all your responses and I enjoyed reading each and everyone of them. In response to color pink. I do not see a problem with the color (vision imagery) of the child within. But thanks for your input and I will take that into consideration. I did not think that we all have to be mature and write everything in black and white to post to this blog...AGAIN THANKS

aerinpegadrak · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Thanks for all your responses and I enjoyed reading each and everyone of them. In response to color pink. I do not see a problem with the color (vision imagery) of the child within. But thanks for your input and I will take that into consideration. I did not think that we all have to be mature and write everything in black and white to post to this blog...AGAIN THANKS
Posted by stoledo[/QUOTE]
The pink is difficult to read. You can express your inner child all you want, but if you're causing people eyestrain, they're either not going to read it at all, or only skim and give advice based on a half-understood post.

Also, it's not a blog, it's a message board. You should probably understand the difference between them before attempting to operate either.

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