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mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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1. At the reception we are having a BP table with just our MOH and GM, our DOC suggested putting it toward the side of the tent, but I am now thinking that might be strange... should we have it in the middle so everyone can see us?

2. My MOH is not giving a speech... I would like someone to speak on my behalf, but how do I ask this? Should I mention to the BP that MOH isn't giving one and I want someone to, or make a mention to all that I need to know if someone is to let the DJ know? Or just leave it alone and when people realize MOH isn't giving one will give one off the cuff? I am becoming more okay with not having one but I know the BM one will be awesome and I will wish MOH said something, anything! Maybe she will after the BM...

3. My cousin videotaped my sister's wedding 4 years ago. Her mother's sister (our aunt) was unable to attend the wedding so I think this is why she videotaped it. It was nothing spectacular, but it was something (better than not having something). This same aunt will be attending the wedding this time. She is also the same cousin that I am not sure if she is bringing her daughter (14 months) who isn't invited, because she RSVPed via text saying "we'll be there" but this could include her boyfriend. Could I ask her if she was planning to tape it? She may not because she will have her child... I don't want to put her out or anything... there is also a chance that another guest may take something on their phone. I also don't want to rock the boat with her child because I will be starting to babysit for her after the wedding...

Ugh also... FMIL has been asking me and FI "how we are holding up" like everyday for the last week! I don't know if she means how is the planning going, or what is left to be done, or if she is asking how we are "holding up" because we are about to get married? I don't know but it sounds like she is asking how we are holding up because there was a death in the family or something?

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  • amandad18amandad18
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    Re: 3- Why not say to your cousin you really liked her last video tape and were wondering if she might do the same for you? Flattery should get you pretty far ;p
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  • caitlinc09caitlinc09
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    1. Honestly I have no clue. I was going to put us (FI and I and BMs and GMs and some other random friends - not really a head table) at the corner of the room closest to the cake, dance floor, and buffet. I thought this would be appropriate for speeches and getting our food first and everything. Your DOC probably has something like this in mind when she put you there, but you should ask her what the logic is if you're wondering!

    2. Definitely ask your BMs now! I think most people want to prepare something before speaking, or at least know they are going to speak there so they have something in mind. I would just mention to them "Hey MOH decided she doesn't want to give a speech and while that is the traditional route, I'd love if you wanted to do one for us instead!" Or something like that.

    3. Agree with PP! Mention that you liked what she did before and you wish there was a way to have her do it for you. 
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  • COSmittyCOSmitty
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    In response to number 2- 

    FI's brother (BM) really didn't want to talk.... so we talked to him and asked- are you interested in a toast and he said no. We told him we'd rather see him happy and enjoy the day so he is not giving a toast.

    FI and I were feeling like things were a bit lopsided (my family are the outgoing ones) so we asked one of his groomsmen if he'd be willing to do a toast. The GM is thrilled (he likes a crowd) and FI is happy and all is well.

    Moral of the story- think about your girls and ask the one who would most likely love to give a lil speech and blah blah about offering and Etiquite. Ask don't insist and you'll be good.
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  • kimberlykhkimberlykh member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:c54efc19-0998-439f-ba84-540c0d3a719ePost:490f13be-5707-4d7c-a27d-8e6f7bf59e98">Re: Questions...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In response to number 2-  FI's brother (BM) really didn't want to talk.... so we talked to him and asked- are you interested in a toast and he said no. We told him we'd rather see him happy and enjoy the day so he is not giving a toast. FI and I were feeling like things were a bit lopsided (my family are the outgoing ones) so we asked one of his groomsmen if he'd be willing to do a toast. The GM is thrilled (he likes a crowd) and FI is happy and all is well. Moral of the story- think about your girls and ask the one who would most likely love to give a lil speech and blah blah about offering and Etiquite. <strong>Ask don't insist and you'll be good.
    </strong>Posted by COSmitty[/QUOTE]

    This for the speech and the cousin taping. 
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  • Becky&ChrisBecky&Chris
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    1. I think this depends on your room setup.. to me it makes sense for your table to be in the most focal area of the room. It's tough to say without seeing your room (for example, where is the dance floor), but if you feel like it is more central, than off ot the side, then go with that. We are sitting at the head of the dance floor in the center of the tent, but that's just what made sense with our setup. 

    2. I agree with PP.. if there is a BM that you feel particularly close to or is outgoing enough to enjoy the speech giving, I would just ask that person directly. I wouldn't wait for someone to give an impromptu speech because that might leave you disappointed, which is the last thing you want to be feeling in that moment :) 

    3. I like the idea of flattery.. again, I would just ask. In my experience, everyone is excited to do things for the bride and groom, especially when asked directly. 
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