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I'm not having a bachelorette party....

....and I'm kind of bummed about that. My fiance is away on his bachelor party weekend right now, and I'm pretty jealous of his chance to spend an entire weekend with the guys he's been closest to throughout his life. 

I understand - it would be really hard to get everyone together at once (we're all in different places) - and some of the girls are planning a themed shower that I'm really excited about, and which I'm super grateful for. 

BUT: the wedding has given me an excuse/opportunity to spend a lot more time talking to and spending time with my girls. My sisters *finally* followed through on the visit they'd been talking about for ages; my cousin and I talk much more regularly than we had been in the months before my engagement; and I've been able to make time for girls' nights with a good friend despite her new baby, and that's something that might not have happened if not for the wedding (the girls' nights of course, not the baby!).

I know the wedding party should be selected based on current/previous relationships, and mine was, but i really feel like including these girls as my MOH & BMs has given us the opportunity to become closer, or reconnect in some cases. And I'm really thankful for that!  

My point, I guess, is that while I'm a little sad I'm not getting the stereotypical bachelorette experience, I really feel like in some ways I'm getting more than that. Anyone else deviating from the norm and enjoying it? 
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Re: I'm not having a bachelorette party....

  • edited December 2011
    I'm not deviating, but I'm glad you found a silver lining!  It's nice to see a post NOT complaining about a bridal party!
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  • edited December 2011
    I found out my MOH and Bridesmaids were throwing me a Bachelorette party. But i had a bad feeling. I was kidnapped sort of and we went shopping, which bored me to death since i'm saving money for this wedding.... Then we get to the main event... a murder mystery train, which is really a train ride where dinner is served and some actors put on some po-dunk who done it type show.... i was mortified and disappointed.

    Now i'm extremely hurt by my friends because i thought they knew me better. I'm 25... i'm not dead. And sure i like the theater for a date or just a get together, but really? A wild once in a lifetime Bachelorette party.... on a dinner train?? Sure i don't like to drink much and i'm firmly against strippers... but there are still fun things to be had. i'm so upset by this and i've tried to shake it off. But i can't...

    And to top it all off, I'm jealous. I've never been jealous in my whole life. But now i'm jealous that my Fiance was involved in the planning of my party so they knew what food to order me etc, and i know nothing of his party.... he's going to get the party of his dreams while i sit around waiting like old mother Hubbard.... Since that's what my firends seem think of me.

    So yeah, I feel you. You do deserve a party. And so do i.

    I don't think anything will cure this case of painful realization. I wish i could just blink it away.... and i wish now my fiance wouldn't go to his party....

    After all it's my party and i'll cry if i want to Cry
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_im-not-having-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:0c2435aa-d265-489b-b497-1703848a37a7Post:1c1c9acd-0f9c-4bfd-9f4e-47bff588e8e4">Re: I'm not having a bachelorette party....</a>:
    [QUOTE]I found out my MOH and Bridesmaids were throwing me a Bachelorette party. But i had a bad feeling. I was kidnapped sort of and we went shopping, which bored me to death since i'm saving money for this wedding.... Then we get to the main event... a murder mystery train, which is really a train ride where dinner is served and some actors put on some po-dunk who done it type show.... i was mortified and disappointed. Now i'm extremely hurt by my friends because i thought they knew me better. I'm 25... i'm not dead. And sure i like the theater for a date or just a get together, but really? A wild once in a lifetime Bachelorette party.... on a dinner train?? Sure i don't like to drink much and i'm firmly against strippers... but there are still fun things to be had. i'm so upset by this and i've tried to shake it off. But i can't... And to top it all off, I'm jealous. I've never been jealous in my whole life. But now i'm jealous that my Fiance was involved in the planning of my party so they knew what food to order me etc, and i know nothing of his party.... he's going to get the party of his dreams while i sit around waiting like old mother Hubbard.... Since that's what my firends seem think of me. So yeah, I feel you. You do deserve a party. And so do i. I don't think anything will cure this case of painful realization. I wish i could just blink it away.... and i wish now my fiance wouldn't go to his party.... After all it's my party and i'll cry if i want to
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_im-not-having-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:0c2435aa-d265-489b-b497-1703848a37a7Post:d7fa0254-a857-490b-a92b-5c8440b8d1ff">Re: I'm not having a bachelorette party....</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm not deviating, but I'm glad you found a silver lining!  It's nice to see a post NOT complaining about a bridal party!
    Posted by CassieeK[/QUOTE]

    <div>Exactly!</div>
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