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jtoly · October 2011

i got engaged a few weeks ago to a great man! We are secretly eloping to Hawaii because we have both been married before and my sister is getting married next year so I will not over shadow her. I want all the fuss to be over her wedding! Anyway, I just wanted to say hello!

CAB1217 · October 2011

Hi... so why is it a secret?

jtoly · October 2011

Everyone knows we are engaged but I don't want my family to spend money going to Hawaii for our wedding. I'd rather them spend the money to help my sister out with her wedding. Plus because we both were married before so we are just doing something simple. My sister deserves all the attention on her!

AmandaSC1988 · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_hello-everyoneintro?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:a139d779-9238-4ba5-8aac-35968fe1747fPost:3fc6b9c1-8e8a-444f-986f-b1f99a79ed63">Re: Hello everyone....intro</a>:
[QUOTE]Everyone knows we are engaged but<strong> I don't want my family to spend money going to Hawaii for our wedding.</strong> I'd rather them spend the money to help my sister out with her wedding. Plus because we both were married before so we are just doing something simple. My sister deserves all the attention on her!
Posted by jtoly[/QUOTE]

<div>What if people wanted to go and once you didn't tell them they might feel hurt that they weren't invited to the wedding. I understand that you don't want to take the attention away from your siste, but if it was me I would at least give them the option to come if they wanted to. </div><div>
</div><div>Anyway, Welcome to the board! I think everyone here is very nice and helpful!!</div>

SamiJoeB · October 2011

Hi! Welcome to the board!! Congrats on your engagement!

I think your wedding sounds wonderful, and that's really sweet of you! Tell us more about yourself!!

jtoly · October 2011

Thanks! Besides taking away from my sister, my mom is struggling financially now being divorced so she would be hurt if other people went and she couldn't afford to go. She's trying her best to help my sister as much as she could. I wish i could afford to pay for her but its just not do-able for me as i am the only person in my sisters wedding so im throwing the shower myself. My father secretly eloped so I'm sure he wouldn't mind and my FI's family already figured that's what we would do so I'm hoping there won't be any hard feelings, my family means the world to me. If we weren't married before I would definitely do things differently! My FI is in the Navy. We were good friends until he was deployed a few years ago. During his deployment we became closer and talked often and I sent him care packages a lot. Once he got home we became best friends and decided to date a few months later, three years have gone by and I'm so happy to marry my best friend!

firsttimersluck · October 2011

Hello and welcome to the board!
I definitely understand eloping as just the two of you since it's your second marriage. That's really sweet that you don't want to take away from your sister's big day. I do worry that people will be upset that you hid it from them, but since they know you're engaged and it's not your first marriage I'm sure they will all understand the two of you doing your own thing. Then you get the marriage and HM all in one

Zimsgirl · October 2011

Welcome! I think it's really sweet what you're doing! What do you have planned so far?

ggirl2001 · October 2011

Welcome! That sounds sweet. Also, I think if you tell people that you were already there and decided to get married with no fuss then nobody will mind. I would just do a casual announcement when you get back. People might be hurt, but they will get over it. You are not lying about being married, you are just not telling them that you are eloping until after the fact.

firsttimersluck · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_hello-everyoneintro?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:a139d779-9238-4ba5-8aac-35968fe1747fPost:4d0f99af-5e83-45d7-b46e-e34c90d6327c">Re: Hello everyone....intro</a>:
[QUOTE]Welcome! That sounds sweet. Also, I think if you tell people that you were already there and decided to get married with no fuss then nobody will mind. I would just do a casual announcement when you get back. People might be hurt, but they will get over it. You are not lying about being married, you are just not telling them that you are eloping until after the fact.
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

Good point! Wise words right here :P

jtoly · October 2011

Thanks! We are staying at the Hale Koa and getting married on the beach right in front. It's really just going to be a simple ceremony withma Lei ceremony as well. Im excited! I've wanted to go to Hawaii and the Hale Koa has great deals for military personell.

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