How do I do the post wedding brunch invites?

Neicy612 · October 2010

We are planning a post wedding brunch and really excited about it, but I'm not sure how to word the invites, or where to put the RSVP for that event. We need the guests to know that they will be asked to pay for their own brunch. Is this OK?? I've read a lot of brides are having brunch at a restaurant, so it's easier for them to pay their own bill. However, we are having a weekend wedding and have a beautiful farm reserved for all three days. Our caterer is bringing food out to us, because it will be easier, and nicer than transporting all (280) guests and sitting them in one place. I need to get a proper count in advance so that I can get the caterer a count (and pay her in advance!) So the questions are: how do I word the invite to let guests know that if they show up, they need to pay up, and if they rsvp, they better show up!

SarahPLiz · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_post-wedding-brunch-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4467bba8-435b-4214-bf3f-eee5ee5f08f2Post:b9dde682-208d-420f-9cae-01169a6ceabb">How do I do the post wedding brunch invites?</a>:
[QUOTE]We are planning a post wedding brunch and really excited about it, but I'm not sure how to word the invites, or where to put the RSVP for that event. We need the guests to know that they will be asked to pay for their own brunch. Is this OK?? I've read a lot of brides are having brunch at a restaurant, so it's easier for them to pay their own bill. However, we are having a weekend wedding and have a beautiful farm reserved for all three days. Our caterer is bringing food out to us, because it will be easier, and nicer than transporting all (280) guests and sitting them in one place. I need to get a proper count in advance so that I can get the caterer a count (and pay her in advance!) <strong>So the questions are: how do I word the invite to let guests know that if they show up, they need to pay up, and if they rsvp, they better show up!</strong>
Posted by Neicy612[/QUOTE]<div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;color:#1f1f1f;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;text-align:left;line-height:normal;">If they are paying their way, then you aren't hosting, and shouldn't be sending invites, taking RSVPs or collecting money. If you want to host it, pay for it. Otherwise, you can tell them that you are having brunch at X place at Y time and they are welcome to join you. The tone of your last sentence tells you exactly why your plan is rude. </div>
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squirrly · October 2010

Nope, it's not ok. If you're not paying, you can't invite anyone. You can tell people, via word of mouth, where YOU will be having brunch and what time, if they'd like to have brunch there too, but that's it.

Beachy730 · October 2010

Ditto PP. You do not send invites out for anything that you aren't paying for. If you want everyone to come to a brunch the next day then you need to foot the bill. Afriend of mine did this and I was in her wedding so I felt obligated to go, and we H and I paid our own way. This was the exact reason I didn't want to do a brunch the next day. Plus honestly, I have always been sick of the wedding by the time I've done the RD and the wedding itself, so I always dread the morning after brunches. I say do yourself and your guests a favor and scrap it, or pay for it yourself.

jeanna85 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_post-wedding-brunch-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4467bba8-435b-4214-bf3f-eee5ee5f08f2Post:64befd94-ec06-4edb-9138-0d0a911c510b">Re: How do I do the post wedding brunch invites?</a>:
[QUOTE]Ditto PP. You do not send invites out for anything that you aren't paying for. If you want everyone to come to a brunch the next day then you need to foot the bill. Afriend of mine did this and I was in her wedding so I felt obligated to go, and we H and I paid our own way. This was the exact reason I didn't want to do a brunch the next day. <strong>Plus honestly, I have always been sick of the wedding by the time I've done the RD and the wedding itself, so I always dread the morning after brunches. I say do yourself and your guests a favor and scrap it, or pay for it yourself.</strong>
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

This. I'm usually just tired and recovering from eating/drinking too much to want to smile and be social the next day. My parents hosted a casual brunch the next day in their hotel suite after my brothers wedding. It was just bagels with spreads and muffins, coffee, and OJ. Cost $200 for about 150 people and we just told people to show up anytime between 10 and 1 to eat or grab something to go before getting back on the road. Most people just wandered down in their pajamas. People were very appreciate esp since most people were OOT and the hotel did not have a free breakfast. And for the price it was totally worth it. Could you consider something like that? I don't think its necessary to have a big catered bfast the next day- most people will probably still be full from the night before.

golden1215 · October 2010

Like others said, you cant. We had brunch at the hotel where we all stayed and I put something on our website like "Feel free to join B&G at hotel lobby restaurant for brunch at 11:00 before heading home. Cost is $16 per person."

But I didnt ask anyone to RSVP and just made a reservation for the # of people I expected would come- mostly OOT guests.

LisaLPharmD · October 2010

I've never heard of a bride and groom making their guests pay for the next day brunch. My mom is making me have one at the hotel, and of course we are paying for our guests.

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