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Is this rude? Please help!

Sorry if this has been answered before, but I had no luck finding an answer using the search function. We are paying for our wedding ourselves, including the rehearsal dinner. We found a great restaurant that we really like, but adding alcohol to the package makes it out of budget for a rehearsal dinner location. I would have liked to serve at least beer and wine, but cannot find a restaurant in my area that we like that would have this as an affordable option.

Would it be totally rude to expect guests to purchase their own alcoholic beverages at the rehearsal dinner? If I did that, would there be a tactful way to let that be known- like just asking our parents to spread it by word of mouth? If it makes any difference, we are covering for a fully stocked open bar at the wedding the next day.

Re: Is this rude? Please help!

  • I have been to several RD's where I paid for my own drinks and never thought twice about it.  I don't think it's as rude as having a cash bar at the reception.  I would definitely have it spread by word of mouth so that everyone knows what to expect.
  • We had a dry RD and no one even noticed and most of the guests were at least wine drinkers. I say go for it. Alcohol is not a requirement for the RD.
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  • We are having our RD at Pizza Hut and will be having pizza and soda.  I don't think it is rude not to have booze. 
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  • I was in a wedding last  summer and we paid for our own dinners at the restaurant for the RD. I don't think it's rude not to pay for booze, especially if you are hosting an open bar at the wedding.
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