MOH problem with Bachelorette party invitee

mallory714 · March 2011

My MOH has decided to plan and host a lingere/bachelorette party for me. She asked me to put together a list of guest, so I did. She called me the next day and said she had a problem with inviting on of my guests (a lifelong friend of mine) because of a spat that happened between them quite a few years ago. She says she is not confortable being in the same room as this person. I feel that she is being over dramatic and am upset at the fact that she would make this all about her. She has offered to plan the event then not attend if this guest is present. I dont know how to handle this? I want both girls to be there! What should I do?

FayeValentine69 · March 2011

Yep, she's being a brat. I have been in multiple wedding parties with people I couldn't stand and sucked it up for the bride's sake. Normally, I don't advocate your WP having to 'suffer' on your behalf, but seriously, it is not that difficult to conduct yourself as an adult and simply be in the same room with another adult you dislike.

Unless this "spat" involved cheating, violence, or a restraining order (in which case I'd get not feeling safe in a room with the guest), your MOH has no right to tell you that you can't have someone you are that close with at your party.

I would just decline the party altogether, personally.

LoveMuffins · March 2011

I'm with Faye. Tell her that you want both her and this other friend to be there, point out that being in the same room does not mean that they have to interact as there will be plenty of other people there, but if she can't handle that, then you appreciate her wanting to throw the shower but you'll have to decline to accept it.