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What did you forget?

Or what did you wish you had done on your wedding day or before?  I have this fear that I am going to be in bed the night before our wedding and think "ahhh!! i wish i had done...." 

Any beauty/fitness stuff?  Rehearsal dinner stuff? 

1 month!  WOO!

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  • This is such a great question.  I don't think I forgot anything but I wish I had done a few things differently:

    * Even with uber-planning, the week before the wedding, I had 2 nights that I was up until 4am.  I wish I had taken the time in the weeks prior to do some of the little things (putting gratuities in envelopes, etc.)

    * I wish I had been less stressed the day before and day of my wedding.  I had my family and best friends around me (who live in other states) but I just couldn't relax and enjoy. 

    * The only big thing I wish I had done differently was this... we did a first look and that was a great decision.  I am so glad we shared that special moment together and got all of our photos out of the way.  However, I sacraficed getting ready with my BMs.  I love the photos of a bride being dressed by her BMs, who are dressed in their gowns.  I have those shots, but it's only 2 of the 4, and they have their sweatpants on.  I know it's a silly thing but I wish I had timed things differently or "recreated" this shot after everyone was ready. 

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  • I forgot some of my must have photos- Mainly photos at the piano and pics of the cocktail hour.
     
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    [QUOTE]I forgot some of my must have photos- Mainly photos at the piano and pics of the cocktail hour.
    Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]

    And a fire extinguisher! (Just kidding!)  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What did you forget? : And a fire extinguisher! (Just kidding!) 
    Posted by Giaspo[/QUOTE]

    I know LOL
     
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  • i love this thread! let's keep it going, i need advice, starting to feel the heat! :)
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  • The heat is right!

    Giaspo... ready?  Ready to get married... yes.  Logistically speaking?  No.  I feel like there is so much more to do when it comes to the vendors and confirmations and payments and schedules that I don't wan the details to get lost.  To be honest... I'm kind of buggin.
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    [QUOTE]The heat is right! Giaspo... ready?  Ready to get married... yes.  Logistically speaking?  No. <strong> I feel like there is so much more to do when it comes to the vendors and confirmations and payments and schedules that I don't wan the details to get lost.  To be honest... I'm kind of buggin.</strong>
    Posted by dsimone43[/QUOTE]

    I know exactly what you mean!  Lists were my friend.  It helped so much to write down everything that was swirling in my head.  Once it was down, then I could use it to make a new list that was more organized. It helped a lot in the last few weeks.

    My advice: make a designated area in your house, or even better a large box or storage bin, and put things in them for the day-of as they are ready.  If I had done this I wouldn't have forgotten the photo cards that were supposed to go on the tables at the venue.  Doh!
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  • Oh, another thing.  Consider giving your cell phone to your MOH, or someone else you trust, on the morning of the wedding.  There really is no reason for you to be accessible to anyone by that point.  It REALLY sucked to get the text messages from people who bailed on the day of as I was getting my hair and makeup done.  I didn't handle it well.
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    [QUOTE]Oh, another thing.  Consider giving your cell phone to your MOH, or someone else you trust, on the morning of the wedding.  There really is no reason for you to be accessible to anyone by that point.  <strong>It REALLY sucked to get the text messages from people who bailed on the day of as I was getting my hair and makeup done.</strong>  I didn't handle it well.
    Posted by jcg98[/QUOTE]

    I couldn't imagine texting the bride on her freakin' wedding day and telling her I couldn't make it.  It's not like the bride could change the count for the venue at that time.   I would just not show and follow up with a card and gift that I would have given if I were there.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What did you forget? :<strong> I couldn't imagine texting the bride on her freakin' wedding day and telling her I couldn't make it.</strong>  It's not like the bride could change the count for the venue at that time.   I would just not show and follow up with a card and gift that I would have given if I were there.
    Posted by JoanE2012[/QUOTE]

    Most people don't think that way though, so it's best to be prepared for it.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What did you forget? : Most people don't think that way though, so it's best to be prepared for it.
    Posted by jcg98[/QUOTE]

    Oh I agree, be prepared.  I just can't believe what some people will do.  :D
  • jcg said exactly what I was going to say.  Get out a little notebook and write down every single thing, no matter how little.  Then you can delegate or schedule in when you will do something.  If you have a free night after work, see what you can knock off the list.  Anything you can do in advance, do it and cross it off the list. 

    I did what she said - had a huge plastic storage bin that I threw stuff in all summer.  It had stuff in there like the completed programs & menus, BP gifts, my bridal underwear, etc. and I took stuff out as I needed it.  Then I organized it and took it with me - literally - to the hotel and bridal suite. It made for an easy end-of-the-night cleanup too. 

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  • These are all such great ideas and awesome advice!  I have everything sitting in a corner of my apartment in random boxes, so I will definitely put everything together into one bin.

    THE PROGRAMS! A large source of stress right now becuase we can't get in touch with our church music lady.  She was out of work for medical problems from April till August... now she won't call us back.  I can't get the programs printed until we know that the music is confirmed... and the music has to be confirmed with her AND a solo sax player who is waiting to talk to her too.  Should we just take our music choices off the programs and have them printed?  or give it another week?
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  • I had piles in my guest room: boxes to the venue, pile of stuff for rehearsal, and day of stuff. It helps because you know it's all right there. One thing I would have changed is letting go. I used to want to be a wedding planner and I'm a control freak so I didn't really enjoy myself until everything was almost over. At the ceremony I wish I would have lived more in the beautiful moment than making sure everything was perfect. If you feel better doing programs now, keep them vague. I don't think music is a big detail. People care about the order so they know how much longer to go and who the important people are. We had a lot of guest changes the last couple of weeks. Just roll with it and make adjustments. Some of our place cards were wrong because of this but there's not much you can do. Let the people around you help and worry for you. Our photo booth was over an hour late and my coordinator was on it. There was no reason for me to care so much. Relax and enjoy once you're out the door! Take every picture you want we were so hot we skipped some. Accept that there might be regrets. Good luck!
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  • Don't be afraid to send someone else your list that you trust.  Obviously DH was there for some stuff, but my mom really kept me on track with the little details that I might have forgotten.

    Give your photog a must-take list! I didn't and regret it, since I missed a ton of pictures that I wanted.
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    [QUOTE]Don't be afraid to send someone else your list that you trust.  Obviously DH was there for some stuff, but my mom really kept me on track with the little details that I might have forgotten. <strong>Give your photog a must-take list! I didn't and regret it, since I missed a ton of pictures that I wanted.</strong>
    Posted by kristen8040[/QUOTE]

    <div>Defintely come up with a shot list for every place you will be taking pictures and think about who you want in the photos.  If you are not familiar with your venue or the area you will be taking photos, scout out the area and come up with a list of definitely shots and locations you want to have.  Think if you want any props in your photos and include those in your list.  We had shots with parasols and got those shots because I put them on the list.  I bought Thank You signs to use in photos, forgot to specify that on the list, and never got shots with my signs.</div><div>
    </div><div>In addition to making lists (which are so helpful!), come up with a timeline for the rehearsal day and day of and make different ones- one for bride/BM prep, groom/GM prep, travel, first look, family photos, bridal party photos, etc.  I shared the timeline with everyone in my wedding party, the photographer and video folks and it made it so easy for everyone to be on the same page with who should be where at what time.  </div><div>
    </div><div>My venue let us drop stuff off a week early, which was awesome b/c it was one less thing to worry about the day before or the day of.  This was great because we were able to get everything organized and it forced us to have things done a week beforehand.  We then had that whole final week to figure out if we forgot anything, and could bring it with us to the rehearsal the day of.  </div><div>
    </div><div>Organization is truly the key to success when it comes to a wedding!</div>
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  • In regards to beauty, make appointments now for anything and everything- mani/pedis. waxings, etc.  You don't want to be trying to squeeze this stuff in the days leading up to your wedding.  Also, find out in advance if anyone important to your beauty regimen will be away around the time of your wedding.  One of my girls wound up beind on vacation the last 2 weeks before my wedding.  It wasn't detrimental, but I wish I'd called her earlier so I could've booked with her before she left for vacay.  
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  • I wish I had specified to my photog that I wanted a few solo pics of me in my dress. Somehow I left that off my ‘must take’ list and don’t remember taking any. Oh well. We did a first look also, but I got to get ready with everyone else. I kind of wish I pushed my mom & MOH to pull my corset tighter on my dress. I lost a lot of weight the week or 2 before, so the day of, the bodice looked kind of lose. Eh, too late now!
  • There were a few pictures that I didnt get....my sister's and brother's kids are like my children....I dont have any pictures with just me and them.
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    [QUOTE]Oh, another thing.  Consider giving your cell phone to your MOH, or someone else you trust, on the morning of the wedding.  There really is no reason for you to be accessible to anyone by that point.  It REALLY sucked to get the text messages from people who bailed on the day of as I was getting my hair and makeup done.  I didn't handle it well.
    Posted by jcg98[/QUOTE]

    YES! Unfortunately I needed my phone the day of due to my douchey videographer not showing up at the ceremony. My MOH called him from my phone and reamed him...lol  Never know what you will need it for.
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  • I LOVE this thread!  Thanks, guys!  Checked so many things off this weekend... including the programs!  Made all beauty appts and dedicated one entire corner of our apt to wedding stuff.  Time is going fast!  Keep the advice comin!  :-)
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  • I love this too!  I have about 6 weeks to go and am finding this really helpful.  Keep the advice coming!
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  • Agree completely with the person who said put the gratuities in an envelope in advance. Meant to do that-- but somehow it just didnt happen, and absolutely couldnt think when it came down to it-- thank goodness for my husband.

    We had a Jewish wedding-- officiant and caterer were very flip about rehearsing the processional though I felt we needed to walk thru since it was outdoors and the "aisle" was not totally clear. By the time the officiant arrived, guests were also arriving, so rehearsal was tricky. And when the time came, it WAS confusing. Musicians were confused as to what to play when, and my walk down the aisle with my Mom got a bit screwed up. So there are no pictures of us walking down the aisle....

    Wish I had picked a specific time to bustle and had gone over the bustling with one of the BM's instead of having my Mom do it. Coudnt find my Mom to do it-- and when I did she got very confused -- it never quite got bustled right. 

    I can tell you I am so glad I took the time during the ceremony to look around at our guests and take people in-- it was incredible to be there surrounded by all the people in the world you love most. And our photographer caught some fabulous photos of me looking out and smiling wide.

    Basically-- I was very happy that I was able to stay in the moment pretty much throughout-- I think everyone has a few things they would do differently, the big thing is to let go after the fact. (It took me a while to get over the aisle thing with my Mom -- I was on my honeymoon still stewing about that, but ultimately, we have THOUSANDS of gorgeous pictures depicting all kinds of wonderful moments, and there are lots of wonderful photos of my Mom and me--including the one where she lifted my veil to give me a kiss before "giving me away.")
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