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adding another bridesmaid

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So I am pretty sure there was a thread about this recently, but I didn't read it all and I can't seem to find it now... Anyway, long story short, I decided to add another bridesmaid to my bridal party. I really should have asked her from the get-go, and I wish I had! So my question is, how can I approach asking her without making her feel like she is a second choice? The reason I didn't ask in the first place was because we have the same group of friends and if I had her as a BM, I felt like the others would feel left out. But really, she has been helping me a lot with weddin stuff and we have become closer, and I would love to have her be a part of my wedding day. I think she will be thrilled, but how do you think I should approach it? If there was a similar thread recently and someone can find it, feel free to just post me a link to that so people don't have to say the same thing again. Thanks ladies!
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  • goodine11goodine11
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    I would approach her with what you said in this thread.  You notice that she has been helping you a lot in the wedding. You should have asked her earlier and you are sorry you didn't but you would be honored if she would be your bridesmaid.
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  • Shanee18Shanee18
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    edited January 2012
    Similar thread from last week: Clicky
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  • chelseakopperudchelseakopperud
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    Since you arent replacing someone with her, I think it is TOTALLY fine. I would just be honest with her!

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  • gregamyweddinggregamywedding
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_adding-another-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:75b0ff87-bd4e-4052-a83e-eec201ff9f9fPost:05174845-3d05-4dd5-8be3-08b2a274b263">Re: adding another bridesmaid</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would approach her with what you said in this thread.  You notice that she has been helping you a lot in the wedding. You should have asked her earlier and you are sorry you didn't but you would be honored if she would be your bridesmaid.
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    This.
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  • chelseakopperudchelseakopperud
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    I have been seriously considering asking 3 more girls (similar situation.... if I ask 1, I must ask all)... they have been SO helpful to me along the way and they are my dearest friends. We originially decided to just have family in the wedding. If I can convince FI that this is a good idea it is going to happen!
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  • courtneyclare103courtneyclare103 member
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    I've had a similar thought. I asked my bridesmaids as soon as I got engaged (a year and a half ago!). At the time, I was friends with a girl from work, but we weren't that close. Last school year we got really close and I kept thinking about adding her, but I was afraid she would be offended because she knew I had already asked my other bridesmaids. I wouldn't have been replacing anyone with her, but I still felt funny. Now I sort of wish I would have asked her!

    I think if you're just honest with her it will go great--she'll be very flattered!
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  • MMRoberts11MMRoberts11 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_adding-another-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:75b0ff87-bd4e-4052-a83e-eec201ff9f9fPost:6b15dd3b-e6b8-4f00-ab08-94e3879b829f">Re: adding another bridesmaid</a>:
    [QUOTE]Since you arent replacing someone with her, I think it is TOTALLY fine. I would just be honest with her!
    Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]

    This.  Just tell her what you told us and hopefully she'll say yes.
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