unity candle.

louannholzer · July 2012

By not doing the unity candle or unity sand do you think I am taking something away from our mothers? He is dancing with his mom at the reception as am I since my mom and I are so close. We are just really not into the whole unity sand thing and want a super short ceremony and would rather spend more time doing out hand writen vows. How do I tell our moms it is not something we are interested in? Advice?

Summer2011Bride · July 2012

I guess I don't see how not doing a unity candle would be a slight to your mothers. Every wedding I've been at, the B&G just lit the unity candle themselves and didn't involve the moms. But I think you are fine not doing it.

Have they specifically told you they want you to do it? If not, it may not matter to them one way or the other and in that case, I wouldn't even make a mention of it or make it into a big deal.

louannholzer · July 2012

I haven't mentioned it but my future SIL asked about it infront of my FMIL and I kinda just blew it off and said we weren't sure. In my experience (how my sister and fb&sil ) had the moms walk up light the outer candles and then we lit the middle. My mom I don't think cares but his I don't know maybe if its not mentioned it just wont be done.

Thanks!

ericaandtom2012 · July 2012

I didn't really want to do one, but my FMIL told my mother about it and got her excited about it when we had our 'parents dinner'. Now I have to do one or both mothers will be slighted.

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