My mom is not eluded from me or my family. In fact, she and my father just celebrated their 45th wedding anniversary. I just got married on 3-25 and my mom didn't get involved with any of the wedding planning. She never went with dress shopping, cake tasting, nothing! She will never know what it is like to see me in my dress or the magic of the day that I worked so hard to pay for all by myself and I even did some things on my own that I was very proud of regarding the decor. She came to rehearsal dinner but didn't show an ounce of emotion and kept telling me she would not be able to go rehearse b/c she was sick and having a panic attack. She has copd and emphazema (spelling) and has had panic attacks in the past but here recently more often. Anyway, this is why she didn't come to my wedding b/c she had one that day. All she has said she is so sorry but she was so sick and she will have to live with this the rest of her life. Now all of sudden when I return from my honeymoon she feels BETTER (great timing) and even had the nerve to tell me the other day that she really wants to get out of the house to return her MOB dress my sister bought her b/c she will never wear it again. I'm done with her and will love her at a distance but this is totally unforgettable. Fact is, she tried to bail on my tea and wedding rehearsal. She doesn't take an interest in my life and hasn't for 29 years. She's not maternal at all. I have tried to have a relationship with her but I always end up getting hurt. Has this ever happened to anyone else? I would totally understand if the sickness were terrible like flu, cancer and thankful it's not of these but on the same token I have a friend who's mom was terminally ill with breast cancer and she showed up in a wheel chair and oxygen to her daughter's wedding.