To send wedding invitations for a Maui wedding??? **I am new to this site**

Re: To send wedding invitations for a Maui wedding??? **I am new to this site**

• NotteeCharlie member

  

  January 2013

  Hello from a fellow June Maui bride! I *believe* etqiuette says you should send invitations to those you want to invite, but know cannot make it, however I think it is really a judgement call on your part.  I was very much in the same situation as you, I let people know in person about the wedding, received some "yes" "maybe" "no" answers and told them them regardless the save the dates are coming. 
  
  I just sent out invitations (they were really basic and directed people to our wedding website where all the detail will gradually make it on there) and I ended up sending them to everyone.  That being said, there were 8 invitations to send out (very small wedding!) and I got them from Vista Print for $1.50 each, so I didn't mind.  If I were paying more for them I might give it more thought, but at the same time I still think I'd want those people to have a wedding invitation to at least have as a keepsake, even if they can't make it due to budget reasons or whatever the reason may be.
  
  When I was reading whatever etiquette article it was, a point was also made that those "no" people may change their mind, so it might be a good idea to send them out just in case.

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• NotteeCharlie member

  

  January 2013

  I should say...the content of our wedding invitation was basic...I actually thought they turned out quite pretty!!

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• mzargo

  

  January 2013

  Thank you NotteeCharlie!!!
  I am leaning towards sending them out to everyone. You have a good point about people changing their minds, I do need a head count for dinner!
  I've been looking online and the prices aren't that expensive for a basic design.
  Thank you for your help!!
  
  When in June are you getting married? Our date is set for June 14th
  Congratulations to you both!!
  

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• nixietink member

  

  January 2013

  I plan on sending invites to everyone, regardless of yes or no's that I've been getting.
  
  I am also a June Maui bride...the 16th at the Olowalu Plantation House. What about you mzargo?

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• NotteeCharlie member

  

  January 2013

  We are June 20th! Congratulations to you two as well!

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• CLI242009 member

  

  January 2013

  I agree with NotteeCharlie , etiquette does say to send the invitation to everyone that you want to invite or want to be there. Then you get their formal answer. Like everyone said above, people can change their minds and things can change for people in their lives too. Someone could be pregnant and doesn't want to travel, someone could loose their income and end up not being able to make it. So yeah i would send the invites to everyone and get the proper count.
  
  I'm not saying email/text/phone call isn't an actual count but I know when I send out a text regarding something you could get a half hearted answer. The actual invite in their hands could 'oh she was serious' lol
  
  Sorry just my experience have fun!!!!!!

  

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• Tanq&Tonic

  

  January 2013

  I would definitely send invites to everyone that received a Save the Date, even if you know they can't join.  I added a hand written note in all of those that said something like:

  
  

  We know you aren't able to come, but in the event that things change, we would still love to have you join us in Hawaii

  
  

  This let them know we weren't 'ignoring their declines' but also that they were still welcome.

  

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• mzargo

  

  February 2013

  Thank you all oh so very much!!!! I mailed ou my save the dates and are working on my invitations!
  
  I am getting married June 14th in Lahaina area on a church property!
  
  Have any of you found any great hair and make-up places in Maui?

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• JI9312

  

  April 2013

  In Response to Re:To send wedding invitations for a Maui wedding??? I am new to this site:[QUOTE]I would definitely send invites to everyone that received a Save the Date, even if you know they can't join. nbsp;I added a hand written note in all of those that said something like:We know you aren't able to come, but in the event that things change, we would still love to have you join us in HawaiiThis let them know we weren't 'ignoring their declines' but also that they were still welcome. Posted by TanqTonic[/QUOTE]

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• JI9312

  

  April 2013

  In Response to Re:To send wedding invitations for a Maui wedding??? I am new to this site:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:To send wedding invitations for a Maui wedding??? I am new to this site:I would definitely send invites to everyone that received a Save the Date, even if you know they can't join. nbsp;I added a hand written note in all of those that said something like:We know you aren't able to come, but in the event that things change, we would still love to have you join us in HawaiiThis let them know we weren't 'ignoring their declines' but also that they were still welcome. Posted by TanqTonic Posted by JI9312[/QUOTE]

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